I have been struggling for a long time on how to formulate this post on a deeply personal issue. While sharing this personal struggle that is affecting my own mental health, it is also a request (maybe even a cry) for help to members of this community located towards the north-west of Germany.

Wishing that all of your endeavors, and all the endeavors of all those whom you care about, bear sweet fruit in this year, and in all of your years.

https://youtu.be/UD9IOllUR4k

Nice human interest story I just read. These days, good news is always welcome.

How My Life Unfolded When My Partner And Kid Both Came Out As Trans:
https://www.cbc.ca/parents/learning/view/trans-queer-family-...

What I'm wondering is those that transistioned after say, 20 years old, do you notice sexist remarks and how you are treated differently as a female than you were presenting as a male.

One of my stories had some of this in.The character was laughed at when she gave an opinion on football. Her partner ordered her drink and food without even asking herThis was guesswork though.

In the 80's I saw a documentary where a man posed as a women for a few days with hidden cameras.(post Tootsie)

And losses. Love is forever. Life is finite. You must treasure what you have, while you may. You are building warm and bright memories against the cold nights and dark days.

Tkinking of you this day, Erin. Hugs

So, I found some poetry that I wrote last year, and it lit a spark to write more, and I have an idea for a story!

My question is : I'm toying with including song lyrics at the beginning of each chapter, but am not sure on the best way to format it. I was thinking of doing it as part of chapter titles, similar to a subtitle. Or using it to start the beginning of each chapter. I want to use it to draw readers in.

If anyone has ideas...

I am not an Author only a reader who enjoys reading the work of those talented people who post on BC. Every time I go to BC's web site I notice the Hatbox status bar and wonder how few times it has obtained its monthly goal. BC's admin has posted requests asking for us to contribute to help meet the finical obligations that are necessary in running this site. I notice on the left side of the main page there are several options available to us readers to contribute to BC. I have used the "One-TIme GIft" a few times in the past but I am not a fan of PAYPAL so I looked into becoming a PATRON.

This song is either the singer's (Florence Welch) ticket to immortality or her never-live-it-down moment. Or both: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhHOEs-1tQM

And this poor buck is probably traumatized for life. He'll have performance anxiety, and PTSD flashbacks. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbBwLlmd-y0

Ran across this again. The last time was several years ago. I'm sure some of you have seen it. This couples story, less the full time coming out and resulting full transition, could be mine. Makes me wonder just where my journey will end.

My husband became a woman

Every once in a while, I check in to read what I find to be one of the more educational, high-spirited, and good-natured love/sex advice columns. This week, Dan Savage has a couple of letters about trans dating, one from a man interested in meeting MTFs and one from a FTM interested in exploring gay male bars.

Don't know if this is relevant to anyone here, but just in case you're nosy about other people's problems, and what sort of advice they get...

So, one year ago today, I married my best friend. It hasn't been an easy road for us, but we always make it over any hurdle that comes our way.

Kirstyn (Piper),

Thank you for

1) Accepting me for who I am.

2) Always making sure I get cuddles before falling asleep.

3) Mustard Hearts on sandwiches.

4) Catching me when I fall (literally).

5) Picking me up when I fall (literally).

6) Being an amazing parent to our son.

7) Dealing with me when I'm in pain.

8) Listening to me ramble about things I've rambled about before.

Here's a (loaded? sensitive? funny?) question...

Ever use a breast pump (electric or otherwise) for erogenous play, either with a partner or solo? Either for nipple stimulation or for anything else. (I'm talking about the kinds normally used by lactating women, but in this case for non-lactation purposes.)

Sign me,

Ummm, just curious.

A very interesting letter by the sister of someone who has decided to transition to that individual. This is one of a series the Guardian publishes every saturday.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/feb/18/a-lette...

From the New York Times.
"The photos Zackary Drucker and Rhys Ernst took of each other showed a young couple in love. They became an important public record of transgender life."

How Two Producers of ‘Transparent’ Are Making Trans Lives More Visible — Starting With Their Own

This is, I'm afraid, gonna be a long one, so if you don't wanna read it all the way through, it's okay with me. There's just some things that have been building up in me for a long time and I finally had to acknowlege them last night so I could maybe find a way to deal with them in a rational way. If you're not interested in my life or the state of what I laughingly refer to as a mind... read no farther.

Hiya!

Ok, I was sitting with a friend watching a k-drama (see blog 1) when I was hit with a craving for ice cream. I asked my friend if she wanted to go out for some. It being a balmy 16 degrees Fahrenheit she looked at me like I was crazy. She does this quite often but to be fair I look at her in the same way quite often.

I, personally, think she just didn't want to get out of her pjs. She said no but I could bring her back a hot fudge sundae. I had splurged for lunch (Chinese) so I might as well buy dessert too.

Happy Thanksgiving to all of my sisters (and brothers) here at BCTS. I pray that you all have many things to be thankful for. I know I do.

I have a loving wife of 48 years who, though she sometimes struggles with it, accepts me as I am. I have two daughters who know and still love me. I have two grandchildren who delight me. I have a job that meets my needs and I have no long term debt.

Life is good and God has surely blessed me.

Wearing my LBD, corset, appropriate padding and short bob style brunette wig, my biggest eyelashes and light makeup, dark red fingernails and my male mode slippers as my neighbours are complaining when I wear my heels... finishing off a bottle of nice Italian wine. Alone...

My "girlfriend" of the last 3+ years had not even bothered to try to meet me on her birthday several days ago, and last time I've seen her in person was somwhere in July...

Today is shaping up to be a landmark day for equality in the US. Heck, a landmark month in certain ways, given recent changes to the standing of TG treatment in government health care. Whether you agree with gay marriage or not, though, let's all give a few moments to feel happy for all the people whose lives, both now and in the future, have a chance of being enriched by the decision the court made today.

Melanie E.

I came across this today. I know there is still a long way to go but there is hope.
http://a.msn.com/09/en-au/BBkFv2p?ocid=se

Jess

The title pretty much says it all. ALL Bullying should be stopped @ schools!

http://bigstory.ap.org/article/d484ef500d27487ebbec575dfe943...

Kohellet (Ecclesiastes) 4:1 (Art Scroll translation):

I returned and contemplated all the acts of oppression that are committed beneath the sun: Behold! Tears of the oppressed with none to comfort them and their oppressors have the power-- with none to comfort them.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/26/salesforce-cancels-...

I've never been good with relationships. I think a lot of that comes from my childhood. I watched my parents go though a messy divorce. Mom and grandma spent a lot of effort on mind games to turn me against my dad. Dad got remarried to the wicked bitch of the south. then divorced and eventually married for the third time(I like this one). I watched my sister go though countless boyfriends in high school and all the drama that entailed. She got married, had a kid then got divorced. she is now getting ready to get married for the second time.