To make it short and sweet, I hated men due to my early experiences with them, and I hated being one. The people around me never said I was manly, especially my wife of 38 years. Finally, I gave up and started trying figure out what living as a woman would be like. There are some good people around me, so I didn't do suicide because I didn't want to hurt them.
Just re-read the story by Daphne about a 12 1/2 year old boy that self castrated himself. I was planning to do the same in 2004 but found a Urologist to do it for $1000 cash. It's a good thing I did because here, where I live self castration will get you a long stay in the State Insane Asylum. I've always had a quiet, seething, hatred for authority for good reason.
I don't know how other people adapt to today's reality, but for me, belonging to something or someone makes things easier. Over the years, since my Divorce and being abandoned I've tried a number of things, most of which seemed to work for a while. Some have been frustrated with me because of my penchant for getting involved in belief systems, and generally a Trans person can not satisfy them, or I could not. Both Christianity and Islam did not work out, though it seems that a branch of Judaism does.
No one to blame here. Just sitting here reading and was suddenly overwhelmed by a wave of grief. No Drama or talk of ending it. Just wanted to say how much it hurts.
Had a wife of 38 years that got to drinking. Blame myself for not putting an end to that and getting her help. Two of my Children blame me for it all. One is supportive and loving.
I miss that woman powerfully and it hurts so much. I could never be man enough for her and as it developed, I wasn't a man at all. Just wish it could have been different though. Maybe the hurt will be gone in the morning?
It is clear to me that exercise and healthy foods help just lots. As most people in this circle know, life for T folk, especially post op ones can really be heartbreaking. Not that long ago, I was talking with my counsellor about riding my bike for a number of things, especially to get groceries. I mentioned a certain market in a popular location and she suddenly seemed very tense. I asked her what was wrong and she denied any issue. She to has an electric bike and passed me one day, though at the time I did not know it was her.
I've noticed the complete loss of any sort of physical sexual response when manually stimulating. It seems possible that is due to the increased development of scar tissue around the nerves capable of responding to such ministrations and not due to age. My Brain refuses to acknowledge the fact but there is some hope that reality will set in before too long.
I've been working on a short story that gets much more explicit than I am accustomed to. And, I am not sure that the idea is entirely mine. Perhaps if I go through it and see if some ideas can be inferred? Perhaps that is what real, professional writers do? I think it was Arthur C Clark that said there are only a few stories?
I am more fortunate than many of you who will never get the opportunity to live as yourselves. For those who reveal ourselves willingly or accidentally, the cost is often rejection, exclusion, and emotional torture as if they pulled our fingernails out. Many years on, thoughts of the ones we once thought loved us but didn't don't come very often. Thoughts of ending it must be fought off but we trudge on in the hopes that the past will punish us less tomorrow.
I happened upon the Author's stories while rooting around on Amazon. I do not know how old the stories are or where the Author comes from. The stories I've read so far are really large, 500 pages or more. They are well written and easy to read. I'm intelligent enough to interpret the sometimes colloquial terms for Transgender when to me, sometimes the person referred to is Intersex. I've been unable to find the Author anywhere but on Amazon. Is the Author familiar to anyone here? The stories pleasantly stand alone even if the TG references were not there.
Much to my astonishment, Storysite.org is still open! I first published there in 2001 or before as Credence Brown. I found one of my original stories there called "Swan Song". It is about a page. I remember it as a True Story and it answers a question for me. I had long ago forgotten about it, and at times now, sometimes I feel guilty for trying to be a woman now.
Read a story on KGW News Internet. It seems that the VA will start doing Sex Change Surgeries. I wonder if they will farm them out to a huge hospital next door? In 2007 I had to pay for my own.
I am grateful to have been at this site for just yonks. My stories have been reasonably well received, thank you very much. No one has chided me for not being the most clever writer, so I feel secure and happy.
Hoping this is all due to inactivity caused by Covid precautions. Out walking makes me feel exhausted, and my BP, Blood Sugar, and Oxy are all showing borderline. I lost 45lbs this winter. I have not been able to get in touch with the Doctor yet. I'll try real hard tomorrow.
I value you all. Please, no emotional emails or phone calls. I've been a snot at times but you loved me anyhow.
I've had a couple complaints about the Editing on this story. Since it is short, I'll just fix it online. I should have given it one more read before I published it. Sorry.
I don't know how I got on this wonderful story. It was written some 12 years ago. Frankly I usually avoid her stories because they always seem to make a sobbing mess out of me. I'm about half finished with it and it is wonderful.
It will be worth your time to read this.
So the VA Caregiver seems anxious to get me on Psych Drugs again. It is chilling. They talk about Borderline Personality Disorder. They have grown so condemning and intransigent that I use a private provider when I can. My private Psychological Nurse Practitioner seems more up to date and we've developed the idea that whatever personality problems I have come from Childhood abuse. The VA is very concerned that I not own a gun, and that is confusing since I have no history of violence, and was Military Police in the Army. If I had a broken arm, I would take that to the VA.
I have considered using Grammarly but do not wish to be drawn into something that might steal my ideas, or milk me for more money than is reasonable. Does anyone have experience with them?
I watched "Deep Impact" last night and found it so moving that I deeply wept until I thought I might pass on. I finally consoled myself sufficiently to gain some dignity back. I doubt that the movie will get awards but parts of it touched on things that inflamed Abandonment Issues and other things.
I've seen a few movies that carry the story to a sort of conclusion, but as I think about them, I have seen no sequels. I am very unfamiliar with so called "Fan Fic", so know nothing of the danger areas. Most certainly, I do not want to get anyone into trouble.
The recent news about T folk laws... I am frightened.
It seems that I have never understood being Transgender. Lately, in my reflections it seems clear that as a child I was very mild. The constant violence and hate I faced then caused me to fear and mistrust males, perhaps even hating them. I saw that my older stepsister was treated well and got to wear pretty clothes. I wanted to be treated nice like her. Did I feel like a female? Who knows, it is doubtful.
Perhaps I do not know what Transgender folk feel?
BBC has a story on that is quite heartening. "The Pre-Colonial Genders We Don't Talk About". It is toward the bottom of the Internet page and shows that Cross Gender, Third Gender, or Two Spirit behavior has been with us for a very long time. It is a very interesting article and encourages me in the idea that there is hope.
I'm reading "No Half Measures" and am almost finished. It is a very good story.
I notice that if I pause reading for more than a minute or two, the page freezes. It could be my Computer. It is aging and I'm getting ready to get another one. It runs on Win 10, and we all know that I am most certainly no Geek.
I am wondering if the issue has something to do with where the story is stored?
Being a total recluse only partly because of Covid 19, I just find things to do that are pleasing to me. I write a fair amount of the time but most of that will never be seen by others. Lately I've been thinking about Art. Not the style of famous people, but most likely Native American Navajo and Shawnee Art. I have some plasticized art paper and I don't even know which side gets the art. I started to use colored markers but the fumes from them almost put me in a Coffin. So, now I have some Acrylics and have no idea what to do with them, or what side of the paper they go on either.
I only just finished "The Princess Trap" and loved it so much! I returned to it to see if the Author had done more, and much to my astonishment found that Tyrone Slothrop and Wanda Cunningham had published it. Then I found out that the story had been on Kindle for a while.
I just finished reading "Legacy of the Anari", again. Looking back on things written about this Author, it seems they have been adequately admired. It seems that they were moving South, but that is the latest entry I see about them. Apparently there was intention to write more but it seems that it did not get to BCTS. Sad that.
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