It is clear to me that exercise and healthy foods help just lots. As most people in this circle know, life for T folk, especially post op ones can really be heartbreaking. Not that long ago, I was talking with my counsellor about riding my bike for a number of things, especially to get groceries. I mentioned a certain market in a popular location and she suddenly seemed very tense. I asked her what was wrong and she denied any issue. She to has an electric bike and passed me one day, though at the time I did not know it was her. The way she acted, it gives me to think that perhaps she shops there and perhaps lives close to there too. It was almost like she was afraid for me to know where she lives, and that hurt me.
I've never been arrested or accused of any crime. It is my belief that generally T folk are not dangerous, and avoid any insinuation of it. I think that T folk are the least dangerous of anyone in human culture. Is that fact or fantasy?
Comments
It is often a given in counselling
that outside the counselling room, you keep a distance from clients which may even mean ignoring them outside. So it could be your counsellor is doing just that, which is part of her personal boundaries in maintaining a professional relationship inside the consulting room and an aloofness outside. So don't take it to heart.
As for the question, are T-folk dangerous, usually only to themselves.
Angharad
Doesn't Fit the Data
The requirement of keeping a distance from clients doesn't explain the counselor's reaction and her refusal to explain. There's something the counselor refuses to tell.
-- Daphne Xu
Clearing The Air
We meet again mid month and I think I will clarify it and make it clear that even if I saw her going into her Apartment, I would not bother her.
It has been so healing to finally begin to see that so much in my life was just me being me, and not the fault of anyone else. Being naturally a submissive carried just lots of shame because I did not understand. While I do like a good, properly done spanking, it is in me to be helpful and serve others. Looking back caring for my family was the penultimate task and I got so much fulfillment from it. Too bad all that had to end. If I had understood more...
Possible reasons
I can think of the following reasons for her reaction: she was attacked there herself;
a friend / relative / client was attacked / killed there.
T folk danger….
Umm… T folk are a subset of humans. They cross all other subsets. This means some T folk are good and some are bad, some are victims and some are predators. Most are just regular people.
Of course T folk are all extremely dangerous to the world view of a significant minority. Just by existing T folk destroy belief systems keeping them in positions of power.
BAK 0.25tspgirl
'Keeping one's distance in counselling.'
That principle must surely create a risk of the distance becoming a wall if either party senses that the other has some sort of reservation or even- (perish the thought!) - fear!
These sorts of potentially obstructive elements is perhaps why I ordinarily shun counsellors like the plague. I even warned my counsellor prior to transitioning that he might find me a very defensive, and/or antagonistic patient with a myriad hang-ups. He openly told me that because of my material and social circumstances he would keep the sessions short.
He must have seen something because I only had two sessions and bingo. From visiting (and also warning ) my GP, through analysis, to complete surgical transition took just under seven months. I don't think anybody has cause to fear me but I have seen some reactions on the media where transsexuals have shown all the aggression that one would expect from an angry man coupled with the residual physicality to give that threat credence.
Peace be with you Gwen.
They are human also
Individuals no matter what letters are in front or follow the name on the door and the business cards. Each adds in their own opinion and ideas of how to answer or not answer situations and questions as they come up. Believe it or not some counselors have counselors for not only a flow of ideas back and forth but to make sure they aren't making things worse for those they are trying to help.
Accept her as human Gwen, don't go trying to be a soothsayer yourself and read too much into everything.
Hugs Gwen
Barb
Being T doesn't mean everyone is out to get us. Be cautiously smart not paranoid.
Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl