The Family Girl Blogs (aka "The New Working Girl Blogs") Blog #64: Just going away for a couple of months. Peace! To see all of Bobbie's Family Girl Blogs, click on this link: http://bigclosetr.us/topshelf/book/28818/family-girl-blogs

Hi, everyone. Will be away for a couple of months, so don't get mad, or worry if you don't see me logging on or posting for a bit. Peace! Sweetie and I are just taking some time off from everything, to recover from the loss of the baby. Just need some alone time. I'm sure you understand.

Three days ago, our baby girl was born premature, three months too early, in fact. And she didn't survive. It was no faut of anyone's. But Ma was glad to know that I was able to have her baptized before she passed away (which is an important thing to Catholics, as some of you may know).

After a month or so (to give Moe a chance to recuperate), we'll be flying to her hometown in Kyoto as soon as the doctors say she's okay to travel. It's at the bottom part of Kyoto City (Kyoto is roughly in the middle of the country). We're going to a place locals usually refer to as Rakunan, but it's more properly called Minami-ku (one should say "Minami-ku, Kyoto" instead of just plain Minami or Minami-ku, to distinguish it from the south districts of other cities).

We'll be visiting with her folks for a while. Her family, especially Papa-san (which is very surprising), have been very supportive. It'll be the second time for me to visit, and I hope we have a good, and restful, time. After that, we'll be going home to DC and spend some time with my folks, and then stay in our house in MD for a while, and then fly back.

I'd actually prefer that we just stay put and rest for a bit, but my therapist has convinced me that we, but mostly Moe, need a change, and a distraction from the loss.

Anyway, we're taking a break from everything. But we're okay. And I should be back online sometime in October.

The only reason I am able to write this now is because I took a few days off to be with Moe at the hospital, but we're going home in a few hours, as soon as the rains stop and the roads are clear of floodwaters (you might have heard - Manila's been experiencing nonstop rains for a week now). So I have time to write.

I have aften advocated, some may even say "preached" (especially those I have so self-righteously lectured at in the past) to look at the brighter side. I suppose they'll say it's a bit of payback for my being preachy. But I guess this is the toughest lesson to learn - how to stick to one's philosophy and convictions; that we must practice what we preach.

So I looked for the silver lining, even if it's not exactly easy to find, and I did find it. What is the silver lining in all of this you might ask? How can I make this a glass half full? Well, the biggest thing is that Moe's all right. So I guess that's how this is a glass-half-full moment. And as I think of her more, I think the glass is full to brimming, actually. I am not making light of our baby's loss - if you only know how much pain this has been for us... There'll be grieving later. But crying's done for now. We are doing our damndest not to dwell on it.

Anyway, I'll be offline for a while, but I'm ok. We're ok.

Think good thoughts and smile, and seeya in a couple of months. And if it's okay, maybe you can take a minute out of your day today and say a little prayer for us. And a little prayer, too, for baby Aiko Gianina.
  

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