Ladies give it more than trying to blend in. In all my years it isn't the girl or the woman who looked like everyone else who caught my eye. From observation the same goes for everyone else even if they weren't consciously thinking about her but admiring what they saw. Lots of compliments from both sexes. A couple men asked for a date. Had to be the skirt and blouse? Let's be realistic, I'm way past the "sell before date"
This is completely off the grid as far as story telling or maybe not. Might generate some insight into how and what others think when writing their story and helping their hero or heroine. Normally when I go out in public I wear a hat for two reasons. Cowgirl hat to accent what I'm wearing or a ball cap with a badge emblem on the front. Hold over from a company we ran. The cap is to keep my hair out of my face and my mouth. Oklahoma wind remember? I seem to always be eating hair when I don't have a hat. Truth be known it's thin on top. Old age isn't for vain people.
Oklahoma is one of many states outlawing transgender care of any kind until one is twenty-one? I think the age is right There were so many changes going into that bill I'm not sure. No psychiatric support, no medical support, no nothing, zero, zilch, nata. If you receive any they promise to persecute (not a misprint) you and the person(s) supplying support. A draconian bill for those in Oklahoma who are trans. I still love Oklahoma but everyone here knows I'm a few bricks shy of a full load. Don't like my governor nor senate, or house, love the state. I'm great at dodging tornadoes.
Not going through the other states for TG resources, here is Oklahoma. If the discrimination laws get signed into law by Stitt do diligent research. My sincere sympathy to all my brothers and sisters who are caught up in this illegal action by my own state legislature and governor who have absolutely no concept of transgender. Some of these sites want donations. That's up to each individual. https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-d&q=Oklahom...
This was a TV series. I only saw a couple episodes but was fascinated. A doctor who is head of a medical team solves unsolvable patient problems by being unorthodox himself. In this particular episode his patient is sick and no one can figure out why as he gets sicker each day. For a spoiler, the patient is innersex. The final sentence is when Dr. House is being his usual obnoxious self. "Just because your son is a freak of nature doesn't mean you have to treat him like one."
Most if not all the stories on this site are fiction with a touch or a whole lot of real life interlaced. Some of the things repeated in the stories I wonder if anyone really tried it? Other things in life are exactly like they are told in the stories.
This only affects a small select few here on this channel with most of this info. Some may be informative to most trans. I still wish to share. If the VA you are going to doesn't full fill your needs then check with another one. Three years ago Amarillo informed me I had aged out of TG care. They would treat me as a vet but not trans. Switched to OKC and received more support than I knew what to do with. Keep in mind I was supplying them with forty years of knowledge about the mental and medical knowledge of trans in return. Most my doctors knew, some they didn't.
One must love watching and talking to old people and or kids. Many have no disconnect on what they are thinking and what comes out of their mouth. To put the encounter into perspective I counsel those like myself. Too many take themselves too seriously and demand others don't make any errors in talking to or addressing them. Most little kids six or under seem to find me fascinating as they stare at me while holding their mother's hand or sitting in the shopping cart. Not my fault. Although I don't have her curves, I'm like Jessica Rabbit, I was designed this way.
Remember the story of the little boy who received his wish and became a girl? Her own parents didn't believe him. She was kinda taken in by her best friend and her friends mother until Child Protection Services, FBI and others got into the act. Only her best friend and her friends mother believed her and yet CPS glomed onto the girl. The women in charge of the CPS was trafficking the children who came into her clutches.
Sadly, not that far into fiction.
A lot of years back, a driver's license cost four dollars and allowed one to drive any thing on the public roads as long as it didn't have steel wheels. I doubt any of you saw the signs along the highways "no steel wheels allowed". Society was changing from wagons to vehicles with tires. Moving on, a few years after that one had to have a chauffeurs driver's license to drive anything for hire or anything more than a half ton pickup or family car and that cost six dollars. I kept upgrading as the laws changed.
Anyone who has been reading my blogs understands I've been outing myself, hopefully to give encouragement to those who are caught up in the gender blender. Sometimes the hardest part of life is to live it like you own it instead of trying to be what everyone else wants you to be, which isn't really you. It isn't only those you love but sometimes it seems like laws and government is against us if we don't fit into the nice little definition they and society wants the world to be.
To me they are a universal fit any situation dress. Whether one is going to that Governor's Ball (I'll never get invited) or going to the Flea Market, there is a cocktail dress that will fit the occasion. For you authors it's easy for your heroine to be the center of attention or eye candy if she is wearing a cocktail dress. There are enough styles and designs one will work no matter where your leading lady is going or what she is doing. Exceptions of course is trekking through the jungle, killing terrorist in their desert camp, horse back riding, kind of situations.
Not everyone can be beautiful or handsome no matter if they are heterosexual or LGBT. They can be themselves despite those who hate us. https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/gallery/2022/jul/05...
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Barb
Life is meant to be lived, not worn until it's worn out.
Been dealing with Oklahoma Vital Records for a month now for a correction on my birth certificate. Years back Oklahoma Supreme Court ruled a name change can't be denied if it isn't for nefarious reasons such as to escape debt, lawsuits, etc. It came about because some of the lower courts were denying a name change for various reasons. Thus ask for a name change in court, submit to Oklahoma Vital Records the old and new name and it's amended on the birth certificate. A new one will be mailed out if the proper fees and forms were filled out.
In many stories on BCTS I read where the author assigns a "female voice" to his or her actress. I have made my own opinion known many times down through the years it's the rise and fall of pitch differentiates between a male and female voice. Several female actresses had a deep voice such as Paula Prentiss, Lauren Bacall, Susan Plushett, to name just a few. I doubt very few who had their back to them, and heard any of these women speak in a crowd, would turn to see who is talking think they are looking at a male.
Bru, my pet, this is right down your alley. Yer up darling!
https://dailycaller.com/2022/06/17/girls-wear-skirts-private...
Court: Making Girls Wear Skirts To Private School Is ‘Harmful’
The ruling asserted that Charter Day School, “has imposed the skirts requirement with the express purpose of telegraphing to children that girls are ‘fragile,’
Walmart for milk before I headed to OKC. It's a long drive, I need my milk and Excedrin. Know most of the staff. I received several compliments and hugs. J.... was an obnoxious ass but that's J...., I've known him for more than twelve years. He asked where I got the skirt and if I had been dumpster diving. It is what a lot of the girls run into in their own lives. Let it go and don't get caught up in their bigotry. The world has those people and no matter what we do they will never accept us.
It was kind of a shock first time I saw this. Each to their own. Who am I to be casting dispersion upon those who want to have fun with a different life style or hobby. Not any different from theater actors and actresses. Teen Drag https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ztqyr2rZElE&t=48s
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Barb
Life is a gift, don't waste it.
In case anyone was interested. When you read it remember gov passed a law one may not sue the gov. doctors, health providers, vaccine makers. They tried to bury this for 75 years and most everyone would be dead. Nothing much to add. https://finance.yahoo.com/news/chd-says-pfizer-fda-dropped-2...
Have been running into lack of knowledge in my medical doctors who are supposedly transgender and intersex knowledgeable. One flat out told me she had no training or understanding of the needs of what transgender care means. I told her it was normal as we are the smallest minority so who would want to waste precious time studying those like us? Yesterday I passed over some data to my psychiatrist she had never looked into. Yes, I see one as most all of us do.
Each of us has only so many minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years in this life. There is no buying or bartering for more. When others steal our labors they steal part of our life. There is no way to replace the time in our life stolen from us. Most figure it's a monetary thing. lost finances but it's much more. As I was skimming the net this never came up in Google but it did in Bing. If one is looking to find how many sites reference back to one's accomplishments it wouldn't hurt to use several different search engines.
Many of the stories on BCTS follow the same theme of school bullies and brutality. Those stories are more non fiction than fiction. I don't think I'm reveling any confidential secrets when I repeat what one of the ladies at the VA TG meeting told the rest of us when she was going to school. Every school day, every school year was literally hell for her. She was constantly getting beat up.
It's not cheap if one wishes to be a woman. Besides the cosmetics, the price of feminine attire and that isn't counting the foundations. Priced any bras lately?
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