Well, last night, my brother gave me a lift to work, and boosted my car. While we drove out there, we talked about life and death, faith and feelings, salvation and sanctification.
There is no doubt he loves me, but we totally disagree on my transition. He believes that my rape, being the first and longest sexual relationship of my life, has formed the basis of what I consider a normal love life, and that in transitioning, I'm trying to go back to it.
He also said that someday, I may meet a wonderful woman, and regret transitioning as it will prevent me from having a relationship with her, never mind that I wasnt exactly beating the girls off with a stick before.
Ah, well.
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Wow.
Wow. That has to be one of the worst things I've heard in a while. Your rape was something you'd grown to want and therefore desire to get back to it? That makes absolutely no sense. That someone could even come to that conclusion is mind boggling. That's as bad as thinking "she was wearing a short skirt so she was asking for it." Someone needs some education and quick.
I'm not saying this has
I'm not saying this has anything at all to do with Dorothy just sharing some knowledge I have picked up before.
It is not a uncommon phenomenon for some people that have been molested or raped when young to seemingly try to form a relationship later in life that mimics the relationship in some ways. Like forming a relationship with a older and domineering male if they were molested by a older relative. Why this happens I have no idea. You would have to ask a psychologist or someone that studies this kind of think to get an answer.
Let me repeat I am not saying this is what is happening with Dorothy or anything like that, or trying to justify her brother thinking that. I'm just pointing out something I have been told by sources I trust. And like everything else most people think they know it could always be wrong.
wow
I have got to say it again, your brother & his wife are 2 of the most screwed up people I have ever heard of..That is the lousiest idea on life I have ever heard,who put crap like that in his & her heads?? Do yourself a favor & stay as far from those 2 as you can,they are seriously mentally defecient....sorry if I offended you with this but it is my opinion
maybe there is some truth
I can't speak for Dorothy, but I can speak for myself.
As some of you know, I was abused by men from the time I was 3 until the time that I was 11. It wasn't just one male either, which for some reason makes it a bigger issue to me though it probably shouldn't
One of the biggest issues that keeps me from going full time and completely surrendering to my true self is the fear that by being molested by men had really screwed me up and me wanting to be a female is a way to rationalize the fact that I participated in homosexual sexual acts (which, yes, is an issue for me and I'm not making value judgments on others lifestyles). The reasoning behind it is that if I'm really a girl then being molested wasn't that bad. Is it a fucked up way to think about things? Yes. But to deny its existence won't make it go away.
Changing gender (or becoming the gender you were meant to be, depending on your views) is something drastic. I think her brother could have stated things a little bit kinder, but he isn't wrong. Victims often normalize their abuse so it doesn't seem so horrific.
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Eh?
Since when has being a woman gotten in the way of anyone having a relationship with a woman?
I may take a bit of flame for
I may take a bit of flame for this, but as misguided as your brother may be, he does seem to care for you quite a bit.
Action speak louder
Actions speak louder at least sometimes. Doroty's brother seems to care about her. He's there to give her help when she needs it. His statement and advice maybe wrong and based on a faulty psychology, but he is not rejecting her or telling her to go to he'll. Probably a great many people think the same way.
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