I had my Neo-Vagina installed in 2007 and for a decade it was fun. In the last few years it does nothing; worse than a dead fish. Er, it doesn't smell though. One thing that does happen is that at times, it feels like I am sitting on my penis, and when I am walking the feeling is stronger. There are no more Orgasms, and there are perhaps several reasons. I've got several conditions that are vying for the right to kill me. I am just wondering if any other Post op ladies can relate? Various medical experts think it could be Pelvic floor issues or perhaps Neurological damage or perhaps it could be recently diagnosed Multiple Sclerosis, though it is early stages and I am very mobile, though no more bike riding unless I get training wheels.
Gwen
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It could just be nerves adjusting
Nerves heal very slowly and then your body has to reconfigure itself so it can understand nerve impulses. It doesn't always get it right.
Angharad
Not my Research Area
Gwen, my focus has been more on the mental and mind of transgender. In passing I pick up a lot of data on other aspects of what hundreds of trans share about their lives. GRS (gender reassignment surgery or SRS (sex reassignment surgery) has been an evolution from the very beginning. Then add in the individual, plus the surgeon and it's very unlikely any two are alike except in general terms.
In my lifetime I've read about many of the "best surgeons" who are no longer alive or practicing. Too many of the ladies names have graced my research papers and they too have moved on.
Hon, I apologize for being verbose and not tightening down to your particular situation. The short of it is there are dozens of reasons why your situation is. Trying to analyze a medical problem with so many variables involved is an effort in ignorance or arrogance. I have both but I'm not going to exercise them today. If possible get professional medical support.
Hugs Gwen
Barb
Life is a gift. God gave us a double blessing of boy=girl.
Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl
For Post Op MTF folk
Hi Gwen, I had my GRS surgery in Thailand by Dr. Kunaporn in 1999. In my case I was almost the exact opposite of your situation. It took me almost 10 years for my nerves to get back to the point that I was capable of orgasm. I'm 69 now, I still have the capability but like you I have a number of health issues. I also lost my soul mate 2 years ago the 17th of this month. So with those factors in the mix I have the ability to still reach orgasm but little desire to do so now days. I wish you the very best in getting to the cause of your problems & fixing them tho.
Blossom
Hello, Gwen
Hello, Gwen. I'm so sorry to hear you have MS. I hope you're okay, and your loved ones are there to help you through.
As to your questions, I don't know about anyone else, but for me, it took me a while to find it. And even when I did, it was, I guess the word to use is it was more diffuse, but it was more all over. And, to get me going, there's a large component of it that's mental, that I need to get in my head to get me aroused, and then it also takes time to reach "it." It's so much easier for a guy. But then, unlike a guy, it takes a while to come down. My therapist had been through it with some of her other patients, and she explained that the nerve "connections" need to connect up again, and it is to be expected that I wouldn't be physically as sensitive and reactive since the nerves and everything have been damaged, after all. Getting in the mood was a bigger, more difficult thing now, and a lot of practice will help. Lol.
And I have had practice. Tons. Lol. But it helps if your partner is really into it and... helps you practice. Just as you have to keep dilating to prevent things from getting shallow, you have to keep on... "practicing."
Next year, it'll be twenty years since my operation, and I've already had replacements for my implants as well (implants have to be replaced every ten to fifteen years) but my plastic surgeon said my new set is different and will probably last me the rest of my life (different type of implants etc. Thank god for that).
My point is it's been a long time. But it's improved a lot from the first time, but it's not as intense as when I was still a boy, and it will never be again, but I am happy. For me, it has never been just the sex. It's more than that. So if the sex isn't explosions and thunder and lighting, I don't mind. For me, what makes me happy is living life as a woman.
One thing that my doctors did say, though, was that if you don't keep on... doing it, you're liable to lose it - it's the nature of the damage we inflicted on ourselves when we had our operation. Also, if your surgeon was skillful enough to give you sensation, you need to keep the sensation alive. If you lose it, it'll be like starting over again. For myself, finding "it" was the most difficult thing - took me a year, and like I said, I found that getting aroused was 80% a mental thing now, and that getting aroused was just the beginning, and it's not a rollercoaster like before, that it won't spiral up and up on its own: now, it's like you have to work at it to keep it spiralling up. But when I get there, it takes a longer time for it to go away, and when it's over, it takes a looong time to fade away completely. Sorry, it's the best I can do to explain it.
What I'm saying, I guess, is that, for me, to find it, I had to find the things in myself - the sensual triggers in me, and it apparently was more mental than physical for me, and then when I did find threse triggers, I then had to find a way to feed it, and to keep at it and not just trust it to feed itself, until it happens. And this may be what you have to do.
However, I know that MS affects sexual function - I know because when I read about Christina Applegate and Selma Blair, I researched it. It's one of the base symptoms, so that may be it. I guess you need to check with your doctor.
Good luck to you, my dear - all my prayers.
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