Had dinner with just my mom and I last night at a Japanese restaurant in town.
The restaurant was excellent. It was my first time there, though my younger brother had been there and told me it was very authentic.
What he hadn't told me was that it was also very traditional! The cooks even come to your table and do the whole show thing if you order Habachi! We didn't, but we observed this taking place with customers who did.
Most of the staff are American, but the cooks are very definitely Japanese, and there's no way the chef can be other than Japanese, no American could have put together anywhere near so authentic or traditional a menu.
The food was very definitely authentic, and, from what I can tell only very good ingredients were used which had to have been imported at great expense.
Mom, of course, not being used to Japanese cuisine, deferred to me. I ordered Shrimp Tempura for appetizer, and Seafood Teriyaki with a side of miso and a side of rice. What wasn't mentioned on the menu was the side of rice was traditional Japanese sticky rice in a traditional clay bowl. The miso was also in a traditional clay bowl with a traditional clay scoop. We had only a napkin, traditional chopsticks, and a fork for utensils.
The food was divine.
We had a pretty good time, talked about nothing important most of the time, until she brought up my meeting with the Bishop earlier this week. I was expecting this to come up eventually, and told she'd find out Sunday. Her first reaction was "Why, are you being disfellowshipped or something?". A disfellowship is what we call it when you are permitted to continue attending regularly, but just not allowed to participate in any ordinances. Your records remain active in the church.
I told her that no, I want to have a family meeting at 9. She was all like, now you really have my curiosity going.
By that first reaction... I wonder how much she already suspects... And I wonder just how she's going to react when the full truth is revealed.
Hopefully, this was not actually my last time having a private dinner with my mother. And most hopefully, it's not really my "Last Supper", so to speak, with me losing my family being the expected result on Sunday night.
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*Hugs* Abigail...
Good luck tomorrow:)
Bailey.
Bailey Summers
Good luck
Good luck, Abigail.
I hope it works out for you.
*hugs*
Beyogi
Dear Abigail,
ALISON
'you know my prayers are for you,you will prevail.God bless.
ALISON
Dinner With Mother
Oh girl, I can just imagine what your nerves are like right now. Stay strong, but be understanding to their fears and ingrained prejudices when they find out, while sticking to your guns about being yourself, not conforming to who you're told to be. There probably will be some angry/shocked reactions, but I hope most of them listen to their hearts and accept you despite those reactions.
Be aware also some may react worse than they would have alone, because they may expect they're "supposed to" react that way. We're not the only ones pressured to comform, of course...
Good luck, my "gorilla sister".
my nerves...
I'm actually doing my best not to think about it too much. Seems to be working.
Just had to get this entry out anyways... it was bugging me to write since last night...
Abigail Drew.
Abigail Drew.
If she truly loves you...
If your mother truly loves you, she will stick by you. That's the acid test.
As for your Church 'disfellowshipping' you; well I, like many of my sisters, have managed without the brutality of religion for 65 years now.
I can understand the 'faith' thing even if I have no need of it myself; I can accept that some who have been brought up with all sorts of supersticious mumbo-jumbo can find some sort of 'comfort' in faith.
As for religion though, well, the best thing they can do is turn all those ostentatious buildings over to homes and hospitals and do their religious thing in the open air.
Apparently, their prophets all started in the open air so what's with all the ostentatious buildings and displays of obscene wealth?
Good luck Abigail.
XZXX
Bev.
Our Chapels...
Are actually quite plain, and often we will forgo necessary repairs for a long time before it is determined to no longer be possible to ignore.
We would much rather have our meetings in a controlled climate, wouldn't you?
Even were my church to decide I could no longer attend, I would not lose my faith. My faith has nothing to do with stupidsticions, nor does it have anything to do with the physical place we go to gather as saints. Part of our faith is to gather as saints, but only part.
If I were excluded that part, it would not change the rest of my faith. I have seen too much, witnessed too much, to possibly disbelieve my faith. My own release from my internal prison has only served to strengthen my faith.
I am sorry that your life experiences have led you to such an obviously negative view towards Christianity, and while I appreciate your support, I could do without you summarily discarding my faith as a non-entity.
Abigail Drew.
Abigail Drew.
But...
It's really not a question of that, anyways. My church has not decided to disfellowship me, or anything of the sort, at least, not yet. I already know where my bishop stands, and can only hope as things progress that any other leadership I come across will be as understanding.
Abigail Drew.
Abigail Drew.
By that first reaction... I
By that first reaction... I wonder how much she already suspects... And I wonder just how she's going to react when the full truth is revealed.
Hopefully, this was not actually my last time having a private dinner with my mother.
How painful can this be to anticipate such a profoundly sad rejection. I'm so saddened for you, and can only hope and pray that your time will be a time of acceptance. Much love to you!
Dio vi benedica tutti
Con grande amore e di affetto
Andrea Lena
Love, Andrea Lena
Thank you all...
For your thoughts, and sorry about the reading comprehension thing... seems I will still need to work on my patience a bit.
Abigail Drew.
Abigail Drew.