I would like some opinions on a question.
Should I name my fears?
What I mean is should I say here what I am afraid of?
If I say what I fear do I reduce its power over me, or by naming it do I increase its power over me?
Opinions?
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You can name them...
...but then you might feel obligated to send them Christmas cards. :)
Hugs,
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
Call them
Bibbity-bloo and then make fun of them for having a silly name.
I don't know if you need to name here, but you should name them to yourself at the very least.
IF you name them...
Does that mean they will take on a life of their own and get proper IDs and all. If they do, will they be able to get a driver's licence and then drive you crazy?
with love,
Hope
Once in a while I bare my soul, more often my soles bear me.
Take power
“I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.”
Naming fears
It's good to know what you're afraid of. But actually naming it? I don't think that will work as well as you hoped. I mean, I'm afraid of heights. I'm afraid of very sharp things too, but simply listing it does nothing to allay my fears.
I think you're looking to identify your fears and try to overcome them? If so, understanding your fear and taking a systematic approach to overcome that fear will work better than just naming them. I mean, if you're afraid of spiders, saying "spider, spider, spider, spider, spider, spider' 100 times will do nothing. What you should do is find a spider that is not dangerous and let it walk on your arm for a few minutes each time.
Or are we talking of some New Age thing here?
Huh?
There are New Age spiders? That's a new one on me.
Penny
New Age spiders
Actually pagans, who still make up the bulk of mainstream New Age still use spiders as a spell component. It's not a matter of New Age spider, it's a matter of continuing an old tradition. Some would say that they never done it, but that just means that they're the more gentle part of the populace that uses salt, incense and candles exclusively in addition to chants.
But I didn't actually mean New Age spider. By New Age, I meant parapsychology. Something like, if you're afraid of ghosts, you need to be strong and fight back or the ghost will run all over you kind of thing.
Fear
I've always been of the mind that you must first know your fear before you can confront it. Does that meaning naming it? Honestly? I'm really not sure. That's something you must discover for yourself, but I will say this... A lot of people use their fear as an excuse and end up limiting themselves, but those who confront their fear and move past it become better for it.
Have delightfully devious day,
A lot of my fears...
with transitioning turned out to be no big deal. I had build them up in my mind until they were insurmountable, which almost cause me to kill myself.
I do not dismiss other peoples fears, they are real and terrible, but in facing them you may find they are not the overwhelming things you thought they were.
Of course, my GT was a big (as in huge) help for me during this time.
One odd thing, 8 months of misery and constant thinking about it has burned the fear of death right out of me. I want to live, and I am still fighting the dark spot, that area of negativity that insist that I am somehow wrong, but I am not afraid to die. I firmly believe there is more to come when we pass.
It makes a difference watching my Mom slowly die, it took 10 years, with her constantly getting weaker and worse over time. When the end came for her it was a mercy. COPD is not a good way to go, the only reason she lasted so long is she wanted to be here for her kids/grandkids and my Dad's constant care for her. He lasted about a year and half after she died.
Be a hero
A hero isn't someone who isn't afraid. A hero is someone who does something in spite of their fear. If there was nothing to be afraid of, it wouldn't require bravery, or heroism to accomplish the task.
Whatever your fear is, look it in the eye, admit that you're afraid of it and then do what ever it is in spite of your fear. A coward and a hero are both afraid, a hero does what needs to be done anyway... Be a hero.
Hugs
Patricia
Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
Semper in femineo gerunt
Ich bin eine Mann
wrong focus
I will go Biblical. Nowhere in the Bible does it say to name your fears, but it does say count your blessings and to name them one by one. Do I need to sing the song?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fMjgS4vu4o
Katie Leone (Katie-Leone.com)
Writing is what you do when you put pen to paper, being an author is what you do when you bring words to life
Okay. I feel that I have to
Okay. I feel that I have to chime in a bit here.
It sounds a lot like http://www.wapsisquare.com - the main character's 'Demons' all have names, and semi-autonomous personalities. (they don't show up immediately, but they're off and on throughout the strip).
That said, you can name your fears, or rather your personal demons, but don't personalize them. I mean, they're fears and demons, not Fears and Demons.
I'll get a life when it's proven and substantiated to be better than what I'm currently experiencing.
Omg people!
I'm pretty sure Dottie ment "Listing" her fears, not giving them personal pro-nouns! Dottie, if you think it will help you (or anyone else for that matter) then go right ahead. If not then just write them on a piece of paper so you can personally reference them when you need to. Loving Hugs, Popcorn Lady