So instead of telling lies I tell half truths and talk about my ex, I also never refer to myself as my children's mother, just let them assume it and talk about being a parent etc., the other thing is when referring back to earlier life, although my birth certifcate says girl, I talk about when I was a child or a kid.

Another thing is when being asked if I'd suffered from heavy periods etc., I tend to say not after they took all my bits away, the same goes for menopause.

When my daughter had to give both her parents names on applying for a marriage certificate in New York, she said she felt like she was the product of a lesbian relationship because she gave both our names as they are now.