Every time I think of SRS I cry

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Since the possibility of me being able to get SRS has gone up, I find I've been reacting super emotionally to the subject. I tear up talking about it, and even just writing about it is hard because I start crying. I'm scared of the pain, the discomfort, the whole thing, but I want it, I NEED IT ....

Oh crap. Here comes the water works ....

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Extravagance's picture

It's short term pain, but long term gain.
Go for it.

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I'd give you a towel, hon.

I don't know what I can do but give you tons of virtual support. I assume you've been talking to a counselor, maybe he/she can help you deal with your emotions.

I don't know how I would react in a similar situation. I wish things had been different, but I'll play the hand I've been dealt. Hey maybe it's better than I think it is-who knows?

Anticipation is a strange thing-the closer you get to something like this, the scarier it can be. I'll pray for strength for you, a gentle hand to hold yours in this changing time. Be strong, hon. You're getting there!

Wren

Dorothy, been there, done

Dorothy, been there, done that -- in 2010, so I remember what it was like. If you go to Brassard in Montreal or his partner, don't worry overmuch about pain. They have good drugs and a sensible schedule that you can modify some yourself. The most pain is sitting down in a regular chair for the healthy and nice family style meals, but a nice little inflatable donut helps a little with that, and kinda becomes your best friend for awhile. Though it was needed less, I often depended over several weeks after I got back, when doing something silly like driving 100 miles. One's own pain threshold is another factor, and I think I was lucky in that I do have a farily high one. Others did not, and complained a lot right up to the day of departure. After the great unveiling and removal of the stent, you will find sitting a bit easier. Brssard's recovery house (named after the weed that nourishes the Monarch Butterfly -- the symbolism is obvious yes, and there are many butterfly decorations around the residence) is great and the care is super. Now, in 2012, recalling pain is just a bit like a cis woman having had childbirth, the remembered pain is more and more hazy in the memory, and not so bad.....(like the old joke about evidence of which is worse pain, giving birth or getting a kick to the gonads for a guy --- The woman after awhile decides to go through it again and have another kid, but the guy NEVER wants to get crotch kicked again!). The pain of the surgery and recovery is not as bad as the kick, IMHO.

And the wonder of it all!! Seriously, only a year and a half from surgery, I have a hard time recalling ever being any different, of ever not feeling "right", except as a hazy memory like recalling highschool or college courses!!. The SRS is like icing on the cake. The hard part is coming out at the begining of transition and living and working in the early part before surgery and pre hormones. You're doing that. You will do fine.

CaroL

CaroL

Surgery

Dorothy - just as Carol has said - Pierre Brassard does wonderful work in a very relaxed atmosphere. I have been to his clinic many times as it is only a half hour car ride away - when there isn't too much snow. Yes some people have pain while others seem to not have any. I happen to be in the latter category. I can remember some discomfort until the stent was removed but we did not try to sit down to eat - on our knees leaning over the back of the chair was much more comfortable!!!

I think I was there a full 7 days & then 7days in an old folks home close to my house as they would not let me live alone for the following week. Since then life has been back to normal.

The time of greatest stress was when I was investigating my identity. Part time as Ruth & other times as a male. I bit the bullet & went full time in 2005 - surgery in 2011. Living here I have been fortunate as Dr. Brassard's bill was paid by our provincial health plan. The only bill I had was for some eyelid reduction surgery - our health plan does not pay for cosmetic work & of course, for the old folks tender loving care.

One of my visits to the good doctor's was to visit a lady from Edmonton, who had announced on BCTS that she would be going there, & while she was there I called her & offered to give her a social visit. The facility is very well outfitted for both patients & visitors although there are no hotels or motels in walking distance - city buses pass in front of the clinic so there is no need for anyone visiting to have a car.

If you wish more details or information about the facility, just PM me & I can speak more of my experience or supply you with various documents.

Bonne Chance.

Ruth

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