The Working Girl Blog #31: I just read an article in Yahoo, or I can't stand it anymore! I'm shopping! To see all of Bobbie's "Working Girl" blogs, click on this link: http://bigclosetr.us/topshelf/book/19261/working-girl-blogs

Yes, yes, I know it’s too soon to post another blog, so soon after I posted my last one. (See http://bigclosetr.us/topshelf/blog/19842/working-girl-blog-3... ).

But after I posted that blog, I logged on to Yahoo!, just winding down before going on home. (We were still at the office, all because of this furshlugginer assignment that I got. See http://bigclosetr.us/topshelf/blog/19796/working-girl-blog-2...
).

Anyway, while I was there, I read an article entitled 'Top 10 Iconic Dresses.' (See http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/beauty/the-top-10-most-iconic... )

It was all about the ten most iconic dresses of the past fifty years. There was Audrey Hepburn in an awfully sexy, slinky LBD from the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's, Marilyn’s Happy-birthday-Mr.-President gown, Madonna's wedding dress outfit at the first MTV awards, J-Lo's OMG Grammy dress, Diane Von Furstenberg's wrap dress, Jackie Kennedy's inaugural gala dress, Cher's mardi gras-like costume at the Oscar's, Bianca Jagger's dress at Studio 54's opening, Edie Sedgwick in her cute mini-plus-leotards and Gwyneth in pink at the Oscar's.

Most of these were a little before my time (except for J-Lo's and Gwyneth's), but, looking at the pictures, they were all very pretty and sexy dresses, and I'm sure all of them will still be okay to wear today, though maybe only Lady GaGa would wear Cher's outfit without needing to be dared. They were all so feminine and pretty, EVEN Madonna's outfit and Cher's.

And I got to thinking that the outfits that women get to wear makes up a big chunk of the feminine mystique, and I am sure it is one of the bigger things that most of us here at BCTS are so fascinated with.

As all of us left the office for the night (Cricket and I gave three of the girls a lift home, as it was near 2AM already), I continued thinking about it. I thought of the reasons why I wanted to switch genders, as I have done so many, many times before. Having to switch again to stereotypes, as it was the only way I could think of gender subjects, I pondered the question, with only half of my attention on my driving, the directions that the girls gave me and the conversation that was happening all around. I pondered. Even when I got home, I still pondered.

Was it about the physicality of the thing, the female accoutrements (clothes and so on), the position one is afforded to in society (the role of the nurturer and friend as opposed to the conqueror and provider) the ability to give vent to my emotionality, or to indulge in those things that the supposed "softer" sex are entitled to?

Truth be told, I think, for me, it's for all of these reasons, with a portion of the reason being that I did not find acceptance in the world as male, and maybe being female, I would be more accepted.

Whatever the reasons, the die is cast now. And as I make my way in this world, I try to find joy in my new reality. And, for my day-to-day, I try to have fun, even though that's so hard to do on some days.

One of the ways to have fun, at least for me, is in indulging in feminine clothes. The more feminine, the more fun. Although, it's always a very sharp edge to straddle - trying to dress and look okay or making all the errors Ugly Betty does. True, even true girls, not just TS and TG girls, have problems in acquiring a working fashion sense. But in trying on clothes, buying them, and imagining how feminine, pretty, and good-looking you are in the mirror and thinking these thoughts - that's fun.

Truthfully, finding your fashion choices validated by your peers is also satisfying, but the trying on, the buying and the daydreaming and the fooling yourself on how pretty you look - I guess that's a different level of "fun."

In the article I read, the advertisement catchphrase that Diane Von Furstenberg coined when she came out with her wrap dress ("feel like a woman - wear a dress") echoed in my mind. I decided to break my promise of not spending too much for a while. I'm gonna go out later and break in my new gold card and buy an outfit or four. I'm gonna call my officemates and see if they want to go with me. Hope they haven't gone to bed, yet.

Anyway, what are you doing staying up this late?! Go to bed! (heehee. joke!)

   

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