My ex was an A-wife in things regarding Cheryl.

When we were separated (do to death of our son, not Cheryl) she confessed, that she never felt desired as a woman, because she thought the clothes turned me on not her. I regret, I never got to tell her:

Yes the clothes turn me on. But I am a healthy young man, almost any thing turns me on. Looking at clouds turns me on. You turn me on. The slightest hint that you are interested in having sex, is probably my greatest turn on.

But you do something for me that clothes never will. You make me feel loved. Without that, sex is just a somewhat satisfying physical activity. With that it becomes a wonderful bonding of souls.

One of the things that makes me feel most loved, Is your acceptance and even help of my Cheryl persona. I realize there are more negatives than positives for you, with Cheryl. And knowing you are doing this, for me out of love, makes me feel very loved.

I think from what you have read and observed, you understand, that Cheryl is a part of me that will not be going away. I also think you are an astute enough observer, to realize, that when I suppress my fem-me side, I become tense and harder to live with. The kind nurturing care you give Cheryl is much how you treat others. Even if these are the reasons you treat Cheryl so well, it still makes me, feel very well loved.