At times being out and post operative as a transgender woman can be a "Hard Knock Life", filled with desperate emotions.
A genetic woman I know has been a good friend for nearly a decade, and lately she has started listening to "Candace Owens" and her "Walt Heyer" Videos. She is driving me nuts in trying to use his nuttyness to get me to change my life. In my opinion, Candace is in the video making racket to make money, and he's gone round the bend, perhaps into Dementia?
Walt Heyer does not write scholarly articles that could be used in Medical, Scientific, or Psychological circles.
It's been terribly hard to deal with, especially since I'm open to the idea that the Native American Two Spirit would have fit me better. (???) No Surgery or Hormones perhaps? I don't say any of this to regulate the lives of anyone. Let each person take the path that suits them.
Love and care to each of you.
Gwen
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My Walt Heyer parody
Wow Gwen, I don't know I could put up with a friend who started doing that.
I have quite a few conservative friends, but none that attack
and deny the very essence of who I am.
I did a send up of Walt Heyer at the end of Part 3 of my story 72 HOURS:
The story's heroine who is attempting to turn herself into a mermaid and her fiance are in bed
watching an episode of 60 MINUTES about the fictional GLOO! movement and "furries"
who have decided to use the adhesive to become their animal selves permanently:
By now if I didn't know several GLOO-heads who were sanely functioning members of society (let's give my friend Bonnie the benefit of the doubt...) I would have exactly the opinion about the GLOO! Movement that this program wanted me to. And now they moved in for the kill: A story about a large man with antlers who looked more like Bullwinkle the Moose than I ever would've thought possible. His name was Hayden Walter and he deeply regretted his decision to moosify himself.
With no way of changing back, he only hoped that his story might serve as a warning about the false promises of trans-speciesism, and that the Church of the Universal Solvent he had founded might help prevent others from making the same mistakes he had. He rattled off some fake sounding statistics about 'transformation regret' and furries committing suicide by turning themselves into roadkill. But he seemed to be doing all right for himself, having become the darling of the right's alarmist fringe...
Finally there was an interview with none other than Dr. Paul Fucking McHugh; who was tying the GLOO! Menace in with his usual anti-transgender tirades: “This is exactly what I said would happen if we started letting people with mental illnesses decide they know what's best for themselves!”
I'm gonna let that speak for itself because I'm having a great day and don't want to waste
another second thinking about these jerks in the Anti-Transgender movement who really,
really, really, really, really need to mind their own fucking business (And no, Candace,
we're not "brainwashing America's kids" into becoming "gender-confused"
but you and your reactionary ilk sure are doing a number on them!!)
~hugs, Veronica
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And if anyone wants to know I'm finally writing Part 4 of that story,
Sorry it's taken so long...
What borders on pure insanity?
Canada and Mexico.
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Living Your Own Life.
At my age, it is almost all over, including the shouting. I used to absolutely pass but lately do not. I have no idea if it is because I got old, or if I used to work harder with makeup?
I'm still stubbornly a person of faith, and have experienced the fact that those of faith often reject those like me. The lonely path is now familiar. There were no promises that it would be any different, no matter how much we wish it was better. That is about as likely as my being carried off to the dance in a beautiful gown. :)
This experience with her will likely lead me to distance myself from her. It is sad that there are people who feel they have the right to control others.
Blessings
Gwen
Two Spirit
The problem with Two Spirit is that if you are not Native American, and you use the term, is you are then setting off other political correctness landmines. However the gender concept it embodies if at all legit(and I would say it is), would certainly not be limited to only one ethnic background. So how do we describe someone who is not Native American, but who's gender identity fits that concept, without culturally appropriating the term Two Spirit? Is there another term that conveys the same gender concept without the additional cultural connotations? I would certainly like to find one, since I also feel this may actually fit me best.
~Hypatia >i< ..:::
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~edit~ Re: "Living Your Own Life"
PS. Passing less my self, not that I ever really did,
or even got anywhere near to all the way there.
Health, Money, Age!
Somes ideals...
Double-Soul, Double-Essence, Double-Quintessence, Double-Nature
Duo-Soul, Duo-Essence, Duo-Quintessence, Duo-Nature
Twin-Soul, Twin-Essence, Twin-Quintessence, Twin-Nature
Peace tmf
How about Doppelgeist?
Doppelgeist might work, for those Teutonic Two-Spirit folk
~hugs, Laika
What borders on pure insanity?
Canada and Mexico.
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Doppelseele
I think Doppelseele would be more fitting, as the condition IMHO is less about the deliberate, analytical thought processes and more about how you feel about yourself and how you react emotionally to external events and actions.
As 'luck' would have it...
I am half Native American, but my Mother and Father having grown up in Oklahoma, at least part of the time, were raised in the time when one hid their ancestry. I remember being told not to ever speak of it when I was pre adolescent. I do remember being told I was either Cherokee, or Apache. If Apache, it could easily be Navajo but I doubt Ute. I'm told my facial features are Navajo or Apache.
So, I do have grounds to use the term Two Spirit, except that the LGBT folk have sort of commandeered the term to mean gay also. I think there is a big difference between the Native American Two Spirit and the LGBT two spirit. For me, none of this has a single thing to do with dressing up extravagantly and going to gay bars. Not one bit. The whole idea of going out to pick up a sexual partner is completely OFF PUTTING to me. I am more of a "Nun", perhaps?
I've been to Powwows trying to find out more, but the "Real" Native Americans there are largely hostile to me. I have no education on the chants, dances, and folklore, and no one is volunteering a thing.
So, fuck it, I'll get along on my own. :( I do wish I had a Native American name, but no.
Gwen
Everything I have said is my opinion and only that.
commandeered
And if commandeered usage has moved so far away from it's origins, then it has negated terms ability express the different aspect of gender identity that made it uniquely useful. It is also legitimately increases the Native American displeasure at the LGBT usage, beyond the typical political incorrect of cultural borrowing. I don't think I care for the commandeered usage as it is evolving.
Sounds like if you do use it will just get misunderstood then, unfortunately.
I never did fit in ANY of the boxes,
I am what I am whatever you call it,
~Hypatia >i< ..:::
Is there another term...
Perhaps non-binary or genderfluid?
What's right for you,
is what's right for YOU! You are not required to fit into any boxes or categories! Be you! Be the best damned YOU you can be, whatever that ends up being and screw those who don't "get it!"
Now, this 'age' thing. I say Bah, HUMBUG! Given my druthers I'd be more like Bev Taff, but I ain't letting my health or "passing issues" slow me down any further than I HAVE to!
You, me and Bev are of an age hon... along with several more who's names I shall not mention. It's only a number. If you let it be more than that, it's on you. You're a good person Gwen and you've been a fun friend, despite a few rants of mine.
Cathy
As a T-woman, I do have a Y chromosome... it's just in cursive, pink script.