I think me and my big mouth have finally made me an enemy at work.
See, I was taking to one person who knows about my transition, and a new co-worker overheard, and asked me some questions about it. I felt good that I had been given a chance to educate someone.
But it looks like it backfired.
First, there was an incident where I was in the ladies washroom when she came in. She turned around, and waked back out only to return a minute later, like she had checked to make sure this was the right bathroom.
Then the other day she called me by my male name, although she apologized for doing so.
Then last night, she said, "Looks like there are only 3 ladies on tonight." But, if you count me (and I think I count), there were actually 4 of us on, so I corrected her math.
Dont know what her deal is, but its obvious she's got a problem with me.
Sigh, Now I know why most trans people go from one closet to another, and are forced to keep secrets in order to function in society ....
Comments
So you have one bigot
Which she clearly is. She is outweighed by the rest of your colleagues. Ignore her. There is no alternative but to plough ahead...
She counted correctly
Her behavior doesn't seem very ladylike.
I'm agreeing with Steph.
She actually isn't a huge deal until she starts something she's just being annoying right now and you are lucky. Edmonton's a nice city for sure but you are in Alberta not exactly know for it's tolerance.
Give her space and no excuses. If she hates on you enough she'll give herself more than enough room to hang herself.
*Big Hugs*
Bailey Summers
You say she is a "new
You say she is a "new co-worker" and "the other day she called me by my male name." Did she join before or after you transitioned? If before, then she might have known you as your previous self; if after, then it is harassment and should be brought to your HR rep's attention before it escalates and be a documented part of the history in any case. Don't let her get the upper hand, at least you are being honest with others.
Hugs,
Diana
Agree
How did she learn your old male name? Someone must of told her about you. What she was told and who told her can range from mere gossip (still bad) to someone who is trying to stir up trouble. Document you interactions and try and either stay away from her, or have someone present when you must interact. If she continues rudness and insensitivity can graduate to harassment and be something to turn over to your supervisor or HR
RAMI