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Well, today is Family day - a provincial holiday here in Alberta. The ironic thing is I dont have mine - Mom's working, and Sam is with her mother. I just tried phoning them, but Sam was in the shower as they had just got back in the door from swimming. I've been thinking a lot about relationships. The fact is, much of our identity is tied up in our relationships to others - we define ourselves as someone's child, or someone's spouse, or what have you. And whether I want mine to or not, they will all change as my gender changes. Mostly, that will be good, as I have always dreamed and wished to be treated like a woman, but there is one relationship I worry about - the one with my daughter. I'm scared she's going to hate Dorothy for taking away her Daddy, and I don't think I could bear that. Ah, well.
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Family day
You have a FAMILY here
May Your Light Forever Shine
There's That Old Saying
You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends. I certainly would not be so arrogant or self-important as to assume that you would ever look upon me as "family". Anyway, that might mean that you regard me as some degenerate or malevolent relative that you would want to keep as far away from as possible.
I would hope that you regard me and many others here at BC as a friend, without those obligations engendered by "family ties". You only have to read the comments to your pretty regular blogs to know that you get plenty of support and encouragement.
There is a very relevant blog just posted, that describes a young girl's feelings towards her father who is transitioning. You may find it encouraging and I think that there is more than a reasonable chance that your daughter will come to terms with you as a woman. It could just take a little time,and faith on your part,
Joanne