So, I have been having a lot of pain in my lower abdomen and went to a VA Urologist to see how to access Medicare to access a surgical solution to my incomplete SRS surgery. Well, the meeting was waaaayyy different than I thought it would be.
She said I have classic Pelvic Floor Dysfunction, which manifests by pain in the hip, general pelvis area, and anterior abdominal area, often feeling like pain in the ovaries. (I have no ovaries) She believes that the "Ovary" pain is either from scar tissue from their removal at birth, or from simple muscle tension.
And, much to my utter astonishment, she said that my Neo-Vagina is one of the best she's seen, and the depth is "Just Fine". WHAT ?!?
She then said that she wanted me to visit a very specialized Massagist for a dozen visits for internal massage. YIKES !!!! Then she stopped and got an odd look on her face, then looking right at me, she said, "You need a boyfriend". Then she said, "You need to dilate more, so get to work and get ready. Dilating will not solve this but will help you prepare".
Cathy, no laughing at me! This is serious business here!
So, I have to face the fact that being a prude might have put me here. You see I have not given myself permission to have that sort of relationship outside of marriage.
What am I to do?
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Hard Question
I would say go for it BUT if your conscience would allow it I guess the dilator is going to get a workout and I am not trying to be funny . Like I said a hard question to answer . Hugs and I hope to pain eases Richie
A classic case of hysteria?
I wonder if this bears any similarity to victorian era "hysteria". One of the classical "methods" of certain chiropractors is to "reposition" the vagina of women to relieve pelvic "spasms". Since this is a medical "necessity", perhaps my prudishness will lighten up? Just hoping. :)
Well
Her heterocentric statement of you need a boyfriend is pretty crass and unnecessary. But yeah definitely dilate, you don't want what happens if you don't.
I know who I am, I am me, and I like me ^^
Transgender, Gamer, Little, Princess, Therian and proud :D
"you don't want what happens
"you don't want what happens if you don't."
How vagina-centric of you!
"Her heterocentric statement of you need a boyfriend is pretty crass and unnecessary"
Sure, assume there was never anything said which brought the concept of boyfriends into it. Flex those SJW muscles.
I'm guessing
You've never had friends who didn't dilate then found their vulva closed up and they had to get emergency surgery to reopen it. I wouldn't wish that horror on anyone, especially not Miss Gwen.
I know who I am, I am me, and I like me ^^
Transgender, Gamer, Little, Princess, Therian and proud :D
Thank you Princesschelsea
I have worried about that in the past. You mean it can happen?
Gwen
Yes
You have to dilate regularly if you get GRS. Your doctor should be able to tell you more. IE: Exactly how often you are supposed to dilate.
I know who I am, I am me, and I like me ^^
Transgender, Gamer, Little, Princess, Therian and proud :D
Be glad you don't see the
Be glad you don't see the Urologist I had to see from the VA. He would have said, as you walked in, "There is nothing wrong with you." I ended up having to go to another VA hospital to see a different Urologist to have the problem diagnosed, and then back there to have the (wrong) surgery to fix the problem. The first Urologist still thinks that I didn't need the surgery I had done.
Very Direct Women
I think that perhaps one of the signals that you are part of the women's circle is that women say some very direct, intimate, and blunt things to each other, generally with great gentleness and care. It is a sacred fraternity, and any experienced woman carries an extra pair of panties, and a spare tampon because another woman may need it.