I am done with Facebook

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After being called a liar and a hypocrite by my sister-in-law on Facebook, I have decided I am not going on that site again.

Anybody know a halfway decent social media site?

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Social Media

Why not take a step back and ask yourself the following question...

- Do I need to be on any social media platform?
Then:-
What am I going to get out of it?
Why am I on [insert platform name here]?
Is it making me more stressful or anxious?
etc etc

I was once on LinkedIn but that quickly got tiresome. I am not on any of the main Social Media platforms and I don't regret it. There is a life outside of social media.
Samantha

Social media addiction

Very well said, Samantha!

After realizing that I had become addicted to Facebook (I spent up to 16 hours every day actively online), I radically deleted all games and nearly 90% of my “Friends”. I restricted the friends list to extended family which is spread out over three continents. But eventually I reduced the contacts even further to only keep an eye my then teen daughters. I have not been able to log on for the last four years, and have not missed it one little bit!

The main reason for pruning my “Friends” list was the controversial postings by those relatives. None of them were personal to me. But at that time what your friends posted on their own walls got reflected onto your own wall an on to your others friends. So you became guilty by association.
For example one second cousin posted pictures bragging how they were getting drunk in the university dorm in the USA while being well below the legal age. Another who was a lawyer started a personal attack crusade against judicial corruption by attacking judges, including members of the supreme court, in public forums and social media. In retaliation the supreme court disbarred him, which just prompted more vicious attacks via various social media channels. Given that I was in a litigation war for the custody of my daughters, and having to contend with the gender and ethnic prejudice from the supreme court, I decided to clean my social media presence and prune all controversial contacts.

I have also seen way to much cyber-bullying and cyber-mobbing over social media to feel comfortable with maintaining a presence in such a hostile medium. Not to mention the rudeness of many people who will pull out their cell phone in the middle of a personal conversation in order to check a social media notification! For me that is showing a huge lack of respect.

Those are some of the reasons why I refuse to sign up for social media like Twitter, WhatsApp, Instagram, etc. I just do not need the aggravation involved with most of the social media. Based on my subjective observation I believe that there is a direct correlation between social media activity and the development of narcissist traits.

For me BCTS is all the “social media” I need and that I can stand.
So I will second Samantha's assertion:

I am not on any of the main Social Media platforms and I don't regret it. There is a life outside of social media.

Come on, Dorothy, try it for your yourself for the rest of this year!

And... now that Zuck

has been to see No47 on bended knee you can expect the whole platform to become more right leaning. After all, Zuck can't let Leon Skum have all the bandwidth to broacast MAGA memes now can he?

Give all of them (except perhaps BlueSky until it goes rogue) the almighty finger.
Samantha

FB

Emma Anne Tate's picture

I avoided FB all last year, and finally deleted my account on November 6. Part of cleaning up my digital footprint. But I’m still on social media: BCTS!

Emma

I haven't been active on FB

I haven't been active on FB for years. Best thing ever. I keep FB messenger around only to talk to a few friends in California and other places in the world. I pretty much ended FB when several people in my family kept finding some news article they claimed was real because they read it on FB only for me to fact-check it and find it false, but the family just kept doing it. Nope, don't need that trash.

Done Face plant

I have not missed it. They threw me out for telling the truth albeit perhaps too bluntly.

:)

Your sister in law is ...

... the first problem.

It's why floop-borg has both un-Friend and Block.

Un-Friending ought to mean that you see far less of her.

Blocking means you and she simply will never see (on flog-bog) each other ever again.

I'm not sure what happens to stuff already posted.
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As for seeing her in-person, you have a prior engagement - your entire calendar - 24/7/365.24 is booked with your "me time", to be spent as =you wish=.

Also with regard to S-I-L: "Dammit, Dot. I'm a programmer, not a shrink."
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It may be at the level of a cultural 'icon' that Ladies who don't want to go out with their pursuer, always "need to wash their hair" - on all days and at all times that he suggests.
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Others here have made many other good points about flaky-butt.
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Me? I'd miss you on fluke-bored.

Sigh ... The problem with both un-Friend and Block ...

... is that you can no longer keep an eye on her.
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"Sister-in-law" implies that it is your brother's job to apply a muzzle.

Idle thought, as to whether she is a general purpose bigot/hater, or it's 'just you'.

If she is a 'general purpose' hater, then Brother has a Very Big Problem. If it's "just you" then separating the two of you should help.
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Evil(?) thought. After brother has his chat with her, he tells her he has a lunch date. With Dorothy. Her reaction should be =highly= informative. Sigh. There is a part of me that is just plain Not Nice.

I’m not defending F*book

I will observe though that this problem (in-laws projecting their own marital problems onto undeserving relatives) was around long before social media.