A few days ago, I thought that someone Blogged about a new Gender Test, and I took it. I was so tired that night, that I kept falling asleep while doing it and I think it could have taken me an hour and a half.
The dastardly, damming,dissatisfying and discouraging test rated me as a "0". :( I felt somewhat disappointed, because in my own mind, I am as much or more Woman than any other Woman. I thought that was it and it was over.
I should have known,because a couple days later, in the midst of a long bus ride, I suddenly began to cry about it. I had no idea I was so deeply affected by it. What hath God Wrot, that I should have to wait to find out what my own mind is thinking? Are we the instrumentors of our own torment?
Gwendolyn
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Gwen, you KNOW the only validation you need ...
... is your own. Don't let some stupid test bring you down. Most of them are no more accurate than a horoscope, and that's being generous (as well as slightly unfair to astrologers everywhere).
Curl up on the sofa with a hot cup of tea (or your favorite libation) and relax. You know who you are, even if they obviously DON'T.
*hugs*
Much love,
Randa
On of the worst things
about tests is that everyone assumes they're a valid measurement of something. The problem is... what exactly is that something? I've written my share of quizzes and tests and I can guarantee that even having a very factual, detailed knowledge base to test; I didn't always get what I was looking for. For something as abstract and complex as human psychology, thinking that any single test could comprehensively evaluate someone is ridiculous. Especially a topic as varied as gender or sexuality. Very few people understand just how far from black and white these topics are.
This too shall pass
Thank you R. My Catharsis is Peach Yogurt Ice Cream; no really, you have to try it. That and a good sweaty sesson of belly dancing. Gosh, I can't explain it but I seem to have this fixation on Middle Eastern Drumming, and dancing to it, giggle. NO REALLY !
Right now I have a CD going that is Egyptian Percussion, Sabla Tolo II. Maybe it is because I never did find a Master, and after much reflection, am no longer looking. I just don't seem to have the Chutzpah to do do the licensious things I want to do. Sheesh, I don't even look for that once hope for, white van to pull up along side me on the street. :(
I am looking to get involved in Sailing again this summer, at least those guys know the ropes.
Gwendolyn
Online tests
Gwen,
When taking any online gender test, you must remember that these are generalized subjective tests. There are so many variables to giving, taking and scoring that no one test result should be considered definitive. Just as the sex you were born does not determine your gender. Tests use assumptions about gender or whatever issue being measures. Your result could meant the test is flawed. Relax, one result means nothing.
I once took a test at tickle.com on feminity. I scored higher than the GG's on the test. My feminity score was 75% verses recent GG's at 25 to 40%. Go figure. I know cultural gender stereo types. I assumed what the assumptions on the test were and answered accordingly. I guessed right. If I put my mind to it, I can skew just about any personality test.
It seems you were looking for external validation of your gender. We all do it. It is normal. Tests can't measure what you feel and know inside. Like most of life, gender is a continuim from dumb jock to dizzy bimbo. Most of us fall some where in between these extremes. I just try to be myself, whoever that is. I strive for beng neutral so I do not become a target. I reside in a blue colar neanderthal area.
Cheer up, go visit or call a friend and have a pleasant weekend. There is enough anxiety in the world. Don't waste any more time. Don't let that test result ruin a perfectly good weekend. (at least where I am.)
Hugs,
Trish-Ann
Hugs,
Trish Ann
~There is no reality, only perception~
Not my saviour
Yes, and I now understand that Psych folks can not fix me. Maybe I just ain't broke, or perhaps everyone else is just as compromised in the brain as I am. I'd certainly have never asked to be GID, or perhaps I just reacted to the brutal things that males visited upon me. Who knows and it is now extremely plain that those I placed on pedistals have fallen off to join me in the stench of the gutter.
:)
And now I hear that GID folk are to be branded as Sexual Perverts? Maybe someday they'll have a gene that they can add that will cause those of us who are too noncompliant to self destruct.
Gwendolyn
If its on line and not validated by the APA then its bogus
Gwen;
People who write online test usually do not understand the plus and minuses. They forget about standard deviations. Most test are skewed to produce what the test writer wants it to produce.
I have fun with them as in college I took statistics, as well as test and measurements. I can skew the MMPI to my advantage as well as the Rorche test.
When it comes down to it the most reliable way of knowing is by what you feel. Talking with psychiatrist and psychologist who are trained in Gender specifics would be the closest thing to our own feelings.
When I was doing research about women as agressive drivers. I passed out a survey. well before that survey was given to anyone I sat with a group and we discussed the ten questions. The idea was to get a true conception of what women drivers were capable of.
Acording to the survey of 100 women aged 21 to 45 eleven percent are capable of committing murder against another driver.
So relax you are who you think you are in regards to your gender.
Jill Micayla
May you have a wonderful today and a better tomorrow
Jill Micayla
Be kinder than necessary,Because everyone you meet
Is fighting some kind of battle.
So, you took one of those
So, you took one of those magazine type tests, didn't get the result you expected, and cried about it.
Sister, that sounds like a woman to me! :)
Seriously, what everybody has been telling you about "online tests" is right on the money. Don't take them seriously. Go with what 'you' feel in your head and heart.
Hugs
Brute
Some days you're the pigeon, some days you're the statue
Don't feel bad...
In the first place, there's no such thing as "female."
The word itself is an ignorant slur originating in the 14th century of the common era as a way for scholarly types to put down women by deliberately altering femella, the Latin diminutive of femina, woman, to reflect their imputed lesser status as being "derived from" MAN through "male."
Woman itself is a similar slur, derived from wyfman, literally a female "man," where "man" originally meant "person," or "human being," as "ren" does in Chinese. A male "man" would have been a "wereman," but during the various changes in the English language over the years this would have been pronounced in modern times as vermin, and human males were reluctant to adopt this appellation, however richly deserved.
http://facweb.furman.edu/~mmenzer/gvs/
So we wind up with all these phoney "folk etymologies" to the effect that "woman" is so named because she "came from man," when any fool knows that it's the other way round.
In the second place, a woman can be any damned thing she wants to be these days, so Rosie the Riveter is every bit as admirable as a rôle model as any namby-pamby supermodel one might see on the cover of Vogue.
http://www.artinthepicture.com/artists/Norman_Rockwell/rivet...
Be loud, and be proud.
Puddin'
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Personally, I think if a women hasn't met
the right man by the time she's 24,
she may be lucky.
--- Deborah Kerr
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Cheers,
Puddin'
A tender heart is an asset to an editor: it helps us be ruthless in a tactful way.
--- The Chicago Manual of Style
Speaking of Rorschach and projective tests....
Here's a pretty good copy of the original ten plates if you'd like to practice:
http://ar.geocities.com/test_de_rorschach/
Never can tell when you'll need a good tee-shirt design either...
Puddin'
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P.S. Click on the pictures to enlarge them...
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Cheers,
Puddin'
A tender heart is an asset to an editor: it helps us be ruthless in a tactful way.
--- The Chicago Manual of Style
RORSCHACH Test; I may have taken it.
I think it was about 5 years ago, and I think that they thought I did not cooperate. Who ever came up with this test is rather disengenious in my opinion. In looking up interpretations of it today, they all seem to center around sexual organs and there certainly is much more to life than that! One of the tests was in color and I really liked the last image; thinking the combination of colors was really pretty. The interpreter said that there was a male phalic symbol at the top. Geeze people give it a break! A very prominent Arab Architect I exchange emails with told me that all tall buildings are simply phalic symbols. Though I must admit that from what I have seen of Arab culture, the men are given much more freedom to sexualize everything, especially women.
Even before I had SRS and still had that dangerous drug called testosterone flooding my body and warping my mind, I could still think of many things besides phalic symbols. Who knows, maybe the people who come up with things like this should run BDSM dungeons or be registered sex offenders. :)
This morning I am wondering if a few bottles of Mirror Pond are better than the APA.