I have posted a story today and I think that I would be helpful to get an opinion on it.
I believe that is clearly belongs here, but is an AFAB transfemme individual truly transgender?
I pose the same question in my closing note, adding that the opinions of some are that "all genders and sexualities should be tolerated", but what exactly is this?
I would love to receive comments on the story, or here.
Maryanne
AFAB Transfemme - Is it Trans?
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Anything that crosses gender lines is transgender.
That said, an important question remains: If a cis woman dresses up as a drag queen, is she criss-crossdressed?
Hugs,
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
If Christopher Cross…….
We’re a drag queen, would he be Chriscross dressing?
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
Sailing
Sailing
Sailing away in tights
and a push-up bra
Love, Andrea Lena
This is what I posted for your story…….
I am accepting of pretty much all genders and sexualities………. well, almost anyway. I absolutely cannot abide with pedophiles - those who abuse children in any way should be punished, and I don’t mean by a slap on the hand either. I also cannot agree with any form of humiliation, abuse, or forced feminization; anyone who claims they are doing it for the good of another person is full of shit. They do it because they get off on hurting another person and on the power trip it gives them. It is just another form of rape, which is also all about the power trip.
The other thing I dislike are those who exist as the stereotype - the super effeminate gay men as an example. Don’t be a stereotype - be yourself.
As to your description of AFAB Transgender women……… maybe there are cis women who feel that their bodies are too masculine for them. But is that the same as being transgender? Not to me. No matter how large and masculine a dis woman’s body may be, it is still female. She will never know what it is like to be the wrong gender, to live in a body that is going through the wrong puberty, to have that body poisoned by testosterone, to watch their body grow further and further away from who they really are.
They will never know the disgust of standing a shower and having to look down and see that birth defect hanging between their legs. And they will never know the humiliation of being denied for trying to be who they really are.
But I will defend to the death their right to be whoever they wish to be - unless that involves physically hurting someone else.
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
I think you are….
I think you are looking for the words “Safe, Sane and Consensual” to describe what falls within your (and mine) definition of “acceptable behavior”
I find those a very useful tool for benchmarking a lot of human interactions
Anne Margarete
I think this is my point exactly
All that we wish for she already has, so how can she suffer?
This is a case of body dysphoria, I suppose, but what does it have to do with gender and/or sex?
Perhaps because I still don't understand her, I had the husband tell the story.
Even he is a strange one, perhaps? He craves a transwoman wife for his own reasons.
Maryanne
I agree wholeheartedly………
Pretty much every single person I know has issues with one or more aspects of their body or their looks. They don’t like their hair, their nose is too big, their ears are too big, they are too short or too tall, etc.
If a cis gender woman feels she is too masculine, that doesn’t correlate with being transgender. No - it is simply not being happy with the way her body looks; she is not suffering from gender dysphoria but rather is displeased with her physical appearance.
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
AFAB a recent development... ???
This is a term that is new to me. I was born in 1947 and then Doctors were considered Gods and often quickly cut and sewed to make new born babies conform to the gender binary. Hopefully this seldom happened. It happened to me, and I believe I was given daily doses of Testosterone.
Nowadays I know that I am XXY with a host of additional descriptors. I am not TG, Trans feme or ??? Lately it feels like I would have done fine just left alone to be a feminine male. I was never gay, though some "X spurts" try to put me in the LGBT box. It would be helpful if people would just mind their own business.
Gwen Brown
I believe that it's belongs
You are an author on this site. Therefore you can post stories on this site.
To post, from my understanding, you must have a TG story, a TG author, or a mostly TG story library.
Peace tmf
As an AFAB person who is non
As an AFAB person who is non binary, (but presents femme more than 50% of the time)here are my thoughts. The implied notion that I don't fit under the Trans umbrella is upsetting. I may not be a mtf woman, but I still definitely have gender dysphoria. I hate that I don't feel at home in my own body. Do I have breasts? Yes. Does my gender dysphoria mean I wish I didn't have them but also still want them at the same time ? Also yes. Sometimes I enjoy wearing a cute bra with matching undies, and that makes me happy. Other times I wear combat boots, jeans and a t shirt or flannel. I enjoy dressing and feeling feminine but Most of the time I'm honestly disconnected from my lower parts, but can appreciate them. That's not the same type of suffering, but it IS suffering. Hell, I know my wife wants the body I have and if I could I'd give it to her. Please don't lump everyone's experiences together. Gender diversity is a spectrum, and as Joyce said "anything that crosses gender lines is considered transgender.
I think that many of us would disagree, yet sympathize……
With how you feel at the same time.
You describe yourself as “non-binary” - as a transgender woman I do not consider myself to be non-binary. I suffer from gender dysphoria, and am transgender - but I am not non-binary in that I fall within a binary set. I identify as female. End of story.
As you describe yourself, at times you are happy with your body as is, and at times you are not. I believe the term “gender diverse” does in fact fit you, but I don’t feel that transgender does.
The Oxford Dictionary defines transgender as “denoting or relating to a person whose gender identity does not correspond with the sex registered for them at birth.” Whereas gender diversity is defined as “an umbrella term that is used to describe gender identities that demonstrate a diversity of expression beyond the binary framework.”
I have also seen the difference between transgender and non-binary described thus: “Many people believe there are only two genders - male and female. This is known as the gender binary. But that's not how every person experiences their own gender. If your gender is different from the “male” or “female” label on your original birth certificate, you may identify as transgender. If your gender doesn't fit into the gender binary, you may identify as nonbinary. Transgender means your gender identity is different from the gender that the doctor gave you when you were born, based on the way your body looked. That label is called “sex assigned at birth” — usually “male” or “female.” If your gender doesn’t fit under the label of either “male” or “female,” then you may identify as nonbinary. Your gender identity may be nonbinary if you’re: both a man and a woman, in between, or totally outside those categories.”
This may seem to be a technicality, and I am not trying to belittle how anyone feels. I think that we all have a right to be who we truly are - both here and in the real world. But I don’t see that “AFAB transgender” as described in the story in question is a real thing. The story describes a woman who feels her body, even though it is female, is more masculine than she is happy with - yet she still identifies as female. That is more accurately body dysmorphia.
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus