I have posted a story today and I think that I would be helpful to get an opinion on it.
I believe that is clearly belongs here, but is an AFAB transfemme individual truly transgender?
I pose the same question in my closing note, adding that the opinions of some are that "all genders and sexualities should be tolerated", but what exactly is this?
I would love to receive comments on the story, or here.
Maryanne
AFAB Transfemme - Is it Trans?
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Anything that crosses gender lines is transgender.
That said, an important question remains: If a cis woman dresses up as a drag queen, is she criss-crossdressed?
Hugs,
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
If Christopher Cross…….
We’re a drag queen, would he be Chriscross dressing?
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
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Sailing
Sailing away in tights
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Love, Andrea Lena
This is what I posted for your story…….
I am accepting of pretty much all genders and sexualities………. well, almost anyway. I absolutely cannot abide with pedophiles - those who abuse children in any way should be punished, and I don’t mean by a slap on the hand either. I also cannot agree with any form of humiliation, abuse, or forced feminization; anyone who claims they are doing it for the good of another person is full of shit. They do it because they get off on hurting another person and on the power trip it gives them. It is just another form of rape, which is also all about the power trip.
The other thing I dislike are those who exist as the stereotype - the super effeminate gay men as an example. Don’t be a stereotype - be yourself.
As to your description of AFAB Transgender women……… maybe there are cis women who feel that their bodies are too masculine for them. But is that the same as being transgender? Not to me. No matter how large and masculine a dis woman’s body may be, it is still female. She will never know what it is like to be the wrong gender, to live in a body that is going through the wrong puberty, to have that body poisoned by testosterone, to watch their body grow further and further away from who they really are.
They will never know the disgust of standing a shower and having to look down and see that birth defect hanging between their legs. And they will never know the humiliation of being denied for trying to be who they really are.
But I will defend to the death their right to be whoever they wish to be - unless that involves physically hurting someone else.
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
I think you are….
I think you are looking for the words “Safe, Sane and Consensual” to describe what falls within your (and mine) definition of “acceptable behavior”
I find those a very useful tool for benchmarking a lot of human interactions
Anne Margarete
I think this is my point exactly
All that we wish for she already has, so how can she suffer?
This is a case of body dysphoria, I suppose, but what does it have to do with gender and/or sex?
Perhaps because I still don't understand her, I had the husband tell the story.
Even he is a strange one, perhaps? He craves a transwoman wife for his own reasons.
Maryanne
I agree wholeheartedly………
Pretty much every single person I know has issues with one or more aspects of their body or their looks. They don’t like their hair, their nose is too big, their ears are too big, they are too short or too tall, etc.
If a cis gender woman feels she is too masculine, that doesn’t correlate with being transgender. No - it is simply not being happy with the way her body looks; she is not suffering from gender dysphoria but rather is displeased with her physical appearance.
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
AFAB a recent development... ???
This is a term that is new to me. I was born in 1947 and then Doctors were considered Gods and often quickly cut and sewed to make new born babies conform to the gender binary. Hopefully this seldom happened. It happened to me, and I believe I was given daily doses of Testosterone.
Nowadays I know that I am XXY with a host of additional descriptors. I am not TG, Trans feme or ??? Lately it feels like I would have done fine just left alone to be a feminine male. I was never gay, though some "X spurts" try to put me in the LGBT box. It would be helpful if people would just mind their own business.
Gwen Brown