So when I first started thinking about this blog this morning, there were many many many places I thought of going with it.
I wanted to touch on how the fact that I know I'm a girl, doesn't change me. How I will still curse, and use rude and innapropriate jokes at times (Sorry to everyone that hoped I would class up just because I started estrogen). I wanted to point out that I still plan to do paintball, play computer games, and sometimes just lie around and be a slob.
I don't have to be the girliest girl around, no mater how much pink really excites me. It's not a great color on me, but I love it all the same.
But I also wanted to make it clear, that the girl I am, is not the girl you are. That everyone is different. There is no "you must do this" or "you must be that".
I know who I am, and where I want to fit in, and if others don't accept that, well then {Highlight to read} FUCK THEM!
I have recently had a couple friends that I was introduced to as "girl" friends come out as gender non-binary, or f2m transgender. And while I don't understand that (Hell, I'm a girl and I love it. I don't know why everyone doesn't want to be a girl), I am more than willing to accept them for who they say they are, and do my best to be supportive. Sure, I did a bit of mourning for the relationship I thought we had, but that does not change, in any way, the friendship that we have.
So in closing, sorry about the ranting, but I REALLY needed to rant tonight. I needed to make it clear that to me, anyone can be whoever they know they are, whoever they think they are, or whoever they want to be, just as long as they are accepting of others, and don't do anything to harm anyone or anyone else's rights/freedoms.
Again, sorry for the rant.
-Piper
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I love you for who you are,
I love you for who you are, how accepting you are, how supportive you are, and always will. One of the friends you spoke of I met as female who now identifies as non-binary. Thanks for being so awesome to them, and reminding me of some things I needed to hear..<3
every girl is her own girl
some work on cars, some would never go near grease, and every variation under the sun.
Self Acceptance
Piper, one can not please everyone. There will always be those who want to dictate the other person's life as to how to act, what to do, how to dress, etc. What one can do is accept one's self. For most it's a lot harder than it sounds. Please, family, friends, neighbors, strangers, and again the list is endless as to who and what is acceptable to others.
In a way I try and please others. I dress conservatively so not to shock or offend, accept any name they wish to address me as, and then be me. Only one thing I demand (I didn't say ask) from anyone else. Do not try and physically abuse me. One person told me a couple years back. "I'm going to kill you." It didn't help when I laughed. "Get it right the first time because you won't get a second chance." My life, who and what I am is my business. Sharing with those who need my help and what little knowledge and experience I have is one of the things I do. I've accepted who an what I am. Others can accept or reject, it's their choice and I'll accept their choice and hope they accept mine. Sadly it isn't always the case. That's their problem not mine.
Piper, live your life like you own it. You get one chance at this girl and it's a one way street. There isn't any going back, no do overs. As my daughter says, "Your friends will accept you no matter what. The rest never were friends and who cares about the losers? It's them that lost something special."
hugs hon
always
Barb
When we get to that point in life we think we know it all, the truth crushes us. We know nothing.
Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl
Being oneself
Transition and hormones aren't just about becoming female on the outside, but being who we are on the inside too. It's not all about being the girl that everyone else expects, but being the girl that you want to be. Everyone deserves that right to be themselves as they want to be, the person they are inside and nobody else can tell you who that is but you. I'm glad that you realize this and extend that same courtesy to others as well, even if you don't relate to how they personally feel .
*big hugs*
Amethyst
Don't take me too seriously. I'm just kitten around. :3
Hey Piper!
You're fine in my book cuz I'm like you. I healed from GRS, was with guys for a short time, didn't connect with them, then remembered I generally never liked most guys. I was a lesbian and fairly butch but unassertive and not guy like. Kim and I worked on cars, rode with a lesbian MCC for a while and I got into making things like motorcycle and bicycle parts with a lathe/milling machine Kim bought me. No makeup no girlie clothes; I used to bike thousands of miles per year (easy in the Phoenix area).
So, good on ya and have a fulfilling rest of your life.
Hugs and Bright Blessings,
Renee
There's a lot of truth in there
You wrote "But I also wanted to make it clear, that the girl I am, is not the girl you are. That everyone is different. There is no 'you must do this' or 'you must be that'." If anyone doubts that, refer them to the cis women around them. Go to any mall, or grocery store, or big box story and look at the variety females wandering around. Oh sure, there are girly-girls that could easily be auditioning for a role as a Disney princess. But there are plenty so butch that you wonder if maybe they are trans themselves. They range from very short to tall enough to play in the WNBA league. Some wear a lot of make up and other eschew the whole idea and go au naturel.
If the cis gender world can't even get it together as to what you have to do or be like to be a girl, then why the heck do we in the trans world need to lay down rules as to what it takes? The big struggle I've had over the years (decades) is allowing myself to be me. In the end, I gave myself permission to be what ever I wanted to be regardless of what the cis world had in mind. I'm sure not about to trade one set of expectation for another set.
Learning to express my feminine nature openly freed me from the restraints of society. Conforming to someone else's idea of what I should be is counterproductive. The LGBT(etc) all ask the rest of the world for tolerance. We need to extend that same tolerance within our own community.
So, you go girl.
Hugs
Patricia
Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
Semper in femineo gerunt
Ich bin eine Mann