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I am really struggling with the fact I am finding dudes attractive now. I think it would be hard enough with just the fact that I never found them interesting before my transition, but my past sexual abuse is making it much harder.
Not sure what to do, honestly.
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For now,
Relax. I am finding guys attractive too. It happens. If a nice guy wants to chat with you take it one step at a time.
me too!
Go for it Dorothy, In my totally closeted life its even more difficult when you start admiring Hairy chests and beards and wonder what they are packing! giggle
I struggled too
I struggled too for a long time. I kept fighting it, trying to convince the world around me, when I was simply ignoring it internally. I argued with myself, my friends, using backwards logic as to why I found guys unattractive. Inside I was doubting the words coming out of my own mouth. I actually did start to find them attractive as I grew older. Finally a nice guy convinced me to go out with him, and after years of pushing guys away, I relented.
Had a pretty good time with him. It felt different being out with a guy. Kind of hard to describe. With most girls I dated, it seemed like we were just girls out. With that guy it felt like the entire night revolved around me, because of the way I was treated. He was pretty nice.
I don't know about your past, but it's not wrong to feel attraction to someone. Even if you do nothing with that attraction, it's still not worth the anguish fighting with it in your head. That's just my opinion.
~Taylor Ryan
My muse suffers from insomnia, and it keeps me up at night.
Dudes?
We are divided by a common language Dorothy but really. Dudes? The males of the species, commonly known as men, have precious little going for them so I understand your confusion and hesitancy. What they do have on their side is the estrogen running through our brains which short circuits what little sense of self preservation we have and ensures the continuation of the species. You are not the only one this has happened to Dorothy and even the lesbians among us aren't always immune,
Good luck and welcome to the club remembering that the man in front of you is a unique individual not to be confused with anyone you've met before
Rhona McCloud
Just what I think
some men are good to look at. some are good to talk to. some are good to date. some are good to marry. A LOT are good to ignore. these conditions apply to women, too. One thing is for sure. Even when a person has been through abuse, sometimes curiosity overrides fear. Ask yourself what is it about that person(man or woman) do you want; conversation, friendship, romance, sex, love or just inspiration for a fantasy or two?
quidquid sum ego, et omnia mea semper; Ego me.
alecia Snowfall