So how do I begin this one. I guess I'll start out by saying my transition is going well. If anyone wants a link to my Transition log or E-log as I like to call it, feel free to PM me and I'll see about sending you a link to it. but anyways I digress, This past week I took adive off the deep end. in a matter of speaking. The past week, I met this guy in my reading class who asked for my number to do a study group session. later that week I got a text asking if I wanted to go out. At first, naturally I was scared. I hadn't been on a date in years. Not since my Ex.....I won't get into that one though. But the other part that tipped me of was he wasn't asking me to be the guy. He was asking me to be the girl of the date. I....couldn't say no. part of me wanted to, the other part wanted to see where it would go.
So With the help of my older sister Brenna. (Note, not related by blood, but she's like an older sister who I trust with my life) I got ready. She got me a new outfit, thank you brenna, and helped me with my make up and hair. after 2 and a half hours I was ready and awaited my date.
He arrived and we went and saw Gravity in 3D and it was a good movie, but because it was so late, I had to call it. I got Tired. And I wanted time to figure out how I felt about him. honestly, a large part of me while I had fun. I held my self back. I didn't feel anything for him. heck I didn't even know him....and.....I'm not sure how to respond now.....
Kitten
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Do as I say not as I do!
If you dont want a broken heart then wrap it up all nice in tissue paper and bubble wrap and store it away nice and safe... Only trouble is this way there be lonliness dragons who will ravage you and not in a nice way.
Nope the way ahead is if he was nice and left you feeling nice then grab your heart and put it out where it can be stolen or broken. Learn from your heart breaks and your heart will thank you!
If he doesnt call call him this aint 1970s GF you can call him. Maybe he isnt sure if you even like him. Invite him out for coffee and talk about the movie and stuff.
Dayna
As to my opening comments. Im a fat ugly balding tranny who it seems is doomed to be alone. Dont be like me!!!
wow, could you be nastier to yourself?
I dont know if the description of yourself is even slightly accurate, but it doesn't matter. Saying negative stuff about yourself makes those labels STICK to you and believe me, you dont wanna live like that ...
And yes, I have been guilty of doing the same thing, how do you think I learned how bad it can be ?
Hi Kitten,
I want to say congrats on getting the courage to go out on a date after so many years. The other thing is, if you don't know, or if you don't think you have feelings for him, then let him know during class. Invite him for coffee at a local restaurant, telling him the two of you need to talk. Then tell him exactly what is on your mind. If he knows you are TG and wants to be with you, that is one thing, but if he is just building you up for a fall, that is quite another. You need to feel him out for this, so you know where he is coming from.
Just explain it to him gently. Then if he still wants to be with you, well, all I can say is, it is better to be with someone who accepts you. But, be sure that he does accept you. Then you can both take it from there.
On the other hand, if you don't have any feelings for him, and never will, let him down gently. I mean, tell him, you had fun and all, but this csn't go any further than it has.
If you really don't know what to do, ask Brenna, I am sure she will know what to do. Thank you for sharing this part of your life.
Love & hugs,
Barbara
"With confidence and forbearance, we will have the strength to move forward."
Love & hugs,
Barbara
"If I have to be this girl in me, Then I have the right to be."
Alot of the problem is I've
Alot of the problem is I've only known him for a few hours. I don't talk to him much. we're both busy.....and I don't want to be THAT girl but....my heart isn't telling me much and I'm just...not into him. I don't want to hurt his feelings. last time didn't end up so well and I ended up wearing a black suit. so yeah. I don't want that to happen again.
Kitten
Never be afraid to push yourself to new limits. While you might not see the path, you will be amazed at what you can achieve.