So alot has happened this past week. I went into a job interview for an entry position Data Entry job. and I walked in to find my cousin who didn't know I was trans* sitting there waiting for her turn at the same job. And she flipped out. after a long awkward interview I left only to find out that I wasn't getting the job. Not only that but either my Dad or my Sister gave her my number, so now the entire family knows it. Along with me being trans*. And have been harrassing me nonstop as I tried to get the numbers blocked. as far as I could tell the family is broken into 3 factions. Those who support me. Those who Condemn me. and Those who just want to be left alone, but blame me because they're being bothered with nonsense.
More over, Dad called me a few days ago but he wasn't condemning me he came with a message. "First off, i want to apologize for our family's behavior. I'm going to make sure none of them bother you. I may not agree with the path you're taking. But you don't deserve to be harassed like this. I got your car fixed. I'll bring it up Saturday. Becareful ok? Love you." I've never heard dad talk like this but I can verify that it was his voice.
So yeah....fun week.
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Sorry to hear this has
Sorry to hear this has happened. I can't imagine how difficult it has been, just try to stay strong. I hope it gets better for you soon and hopefully those who support you are in the majority.
Big hugs
Lizzie :)
Bailey's Angel
The Godmother :p
Not to be mean...
But I hope your cousin didn't get the job either...
{{Hugs}}
huggles, hon.
I'm so sorry you're going through this.
You killed the person they knew
It won't help those who hate you for killing the person they knew. Most of them refuse to understand nothing changed except the paint job on the old car or not so old car. Whether one is wearing dress and heels or greasy coveralls and work boots the person wearing the clothes is the same person.
Despite the magic stories we read, no one can transform from what they really are into someone else. Wearing my jeans and boots with mud, cow manure, and blood from calving is still the same person after a bath and slipping into a party dress.
They may hate you for killing the "other person" but they didn't really know you either or they would try to understand. Be gentle with them and maybe they will come around. And if they don't, have you really lost anything? I mean those kind will take your last canteen of water in the desert and leave you. Now's a good time to start cultivating a better class of friends.
May God be with you and send His angels to protect you and guide you.
Oklahoma born and raised cowgirl
Perhaps a silver lining?
Yes, overall this was a bad week - but perhaps there was a silver lining to the black cloud.
OK - it didn't happen the way you would have liked it to, but your family knows. No matter how they find out, there will always be some who are opposed to your decision. I know - I just went through, in fact am still going through the same thing. The important thing is that it's done. Now you know who really, truly loves you.
Obviously, your father can be counted amongst that group. He may not fully understand, or even agree with your decision - but the important thing is that he loves you. He loves you enough to not only stand up for you against the rest of the family, but also to make sure that your car was taken care of. He loves you enough to tell you. That is all that matters. That is what you need to focus on.
Take counsel not of your fears. Life for those like you and me is never easy. Those who love you and care about you will always be there with you and for you. Everyone else - those people don't matter.
Dallas
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
I don't see why being trans*
as you describe it, means you're either unable to do the job or anything else. It isn't a disability, just a variation on the norm.
As for your family: I suppose they're entitled to their own opinions but to sabotage someone else's chance at a job is pretty low behaviour. Unfortunately, transitioning is never an easy path, the minefields are there just waiting for an unwary step. Those of us who walk the walk to the other side grow from the experience, accepting those who support us and ignoring those who don't. There isn't much we can do except focus on the positives and do the best we can to make them happen.
I would challenge the idea that all we do is change the paint job on the exterior, we do change - age causes change, the environment causes change, and so does the freedom to be yourself. Embrace it and keep moving forward.
Good luck with your journey of self discovery.
Angharad