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Well, I got a message from Jade telling me Kylie is alive, in her words "no thanks to you." I dont care. She can blame me for not picking up on the clues if she wants to. Kylie is alive. That's what matters.
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That's what counts
That's what counts.. Now Jade has to get off her high horse so that the both of you can take care of Kylie. Great news.
Rami
RAMI
Enabling...
...just by the way you've described Jade's communication, I have no doubt that she's very likely going to feed into Kylie's problem. She sounds like she'll be reluctant to confront her about her behavior, and that could just get real bad real fast. You did what you could; there really isn't anything else you could of done short of moving to Portland, but even then she would have found a way to keep her plans from you and go off like she did. And Kylie sounds like she's likely to try to hold your relationship 'hostage' should she find her way to have you in her life. Hopefully she'll get the help she needs. My prayers to you, dear one.
Love, Andrea Lena
I'm glad that Kylie is okay
Her actions would appear that she wanted help, but didn't know how to ask for it.
I hope that she is in care now and not just staying with Jade. I would have to agree that it sounds as if Jade has been enabling her and not doing anything to help her. Is possible that Jade might have problems of her own and that might be why she is so angry with you?
Sounds a little like a girl I l know who has a mental disorder
Fist met her in when she was in her early 20s. Didn't know she had already had a breakdown a couple years before.
She was so smart, gregarious, funny. A little heavy set in a pleasingly plump way and a great counterpart to her slender but also short sister who is shy, a tech geek and well, every bit as alluring in her own quiet way.
The one sister has a mental disorder that IF she takes her meds is fine but when she stops.
Almost like a TG guy purging his wardrobe. She has had a couple episodes where she started acting like someone was out to get her or some conspiracy. Like she couldn't distinguish between reality and fantasy.
Then she would suddenly give her stuff away and ... Nearly killed herself but was saved due to her devoted sister and that she has a strong Catholic upbringing and turned to faith... suicide is a mortal sin to her... thank god! But it was a near thing.
The net result is that now in her upper 40s she must live in a group home and works limited hours in a sheltered work environment. The periods of out of control disease and the meds have dimmed noticeably the bright, artistic woman and caused weight gain that is bordering on unhealthy. This is a woman who when she was young and healthy was essentially an executive secretary/office manager with the skills to rise much higher.
Poor kid.
And the strain has affected her sister. Neither has ever married nor had a lover male or female as far as I know and I don't doubt they had at least a few suitors in their day. Heck *I* fancied then both quietly for some time. Um, NOT at the same time.. I'm not THAT *exciting*.
I worry that your friend has a mental disorder ontop of ... well it is her story to tell.
You have done what you can. I also worry.. .I pray I am wrong that this Jade is deliberately isolating your friend. She may mean well but this is not to either's benefit IMHO. Only will tend to put more strain of this Jade as the care giver/watchperson and reduced the size of the safety net out there for your friend. And if she is a controlling type... very bad.
I'm no doc. The height of my medical/social sciences training is Red Cross stuff in the Scouts and economics in college but isolating your friend seems a recipe for disaster. Oh, after a bad setback needless she will need time to decompress and regain confidence, get out of her depression. But to isolated her from her friends ?
Do you know any others in that city who can keep an eye on the two of them discreetly? For now it seems your interest will be seen as *interference* at least by this Jade.
Pity.
John in Wauwatosa
John in Wauwatosa
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I am glad Kylie is OK but can someone please tell me how that idiot Jade can expexct someone who is half a continent away can do any more than she herself did,& she was in the same damn city...People like her irk me no end, they want everyone else to do things while they sit on their dead ass & run their mouth in disgust because it is enough... Crap on her Kitten ignore her mouth& know you did all you could HUGS Papa
I have to agree with you.
I have to agree with you. People who are fast to blame, but could have done more themselves are total pains in the hind end. My fast temper would have seen me sending an email that read. "Clearly it's no thanks to you either." But what would the insult war do, other then hurt the person who is already hurting?
I'd question who this Jade is to the girl in question and tell the friend to get away from her, because Jade seems like a toxic personality, someone that will control and tear down an already hurt person
Thank the Goddess for this blessing.
I was about to put up a thread about this because I thought that I dreamed that I saw this this morning when I just awoke. I could not find the blog until a few moments ago. I am so happy and glad it was not a dream.
Humbled and very thankful.
Misha Nova
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