Been thinking a lot about my attractions to people since I did the "elephant in the room" post, and I found something odd looking back at the girls I had crushes on.
They had to meet three criteria - they had to be pretty, they had to be kind, and based on who I picked its now clear to me that they had to be unavailable.
So in fact, I picked "safe" girls, where there was little or no danger of an actual relationship developing.
Then there were my actual relationships, and in some ways, they were "safe" too. In the two cases of girls that I was serious with, both were almost asexual in terms of desire, at least towards me.
Make of that what you will.
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I was a safe girl.
I was a safe girl for my wife. She had been abused in every way a person could be and I was her soft spot to land. She could not admit to her heterosexuality until just before we broke up. She healed and moved on to her next phase of life.
In my favor I also grew and in the crucible of my life. I became stronger and my definitions became knowledge not just belief. You are a good women and I wish you all the sunshine and freedom your heart desires. As hard on you as this understanding the truth of it is what will set you free.
Love and Huggles
Misha
With those with open eyes the world reads like a book
Tough combination
Hi Ms Colleen,
I had a safe girl but eventually she cracked
big hugs k-jo
I was lying down minding my own business when life came by and drove right over me
Take this the right way
Katie Leone (Katie-Leone.com)
Writing is what you do when you put pen to paper, being an author is what you do when you bring words to life