Sorry I need a place to vent Before I explode,. I would like to share some recent information I just discovered. My step Father the terror of my life passed away last year, he received a glowing sendoff by his new family and friends. New because when my mother died in 1999 January 1, he remarried and lived for another 12 years. His obituary held a wealth of information including all of his surviving kin from his recent marriage, all of his community service his square dancing with his new wife etc.
His wife of 35 plus years and there adopted child {ME} was not even mentioned. It was as if his life began in 1999 January 10. Nine short days after, My step father with no public announcement, no obituary other than the county required two or three lines nothing noting her tireless effort to force the county to enforce water quality standards, meals on wheals, work with the counsel of the aged, fighting the electric regulating board and the local power company who over charged old people and the poor, There was no memorial service for her many friends who loved and worked with her, He then cremated my mother then did not inform the state I was a surviving member of the family. He had in fact told those he wanted to that I died of Aids and being a drug out sex worker in Philadelphia. When I was a mother of 2 children in Seattle.

I was told of my mothers death when he sent me a package of a few surviving papers from my childhood. On one of those papers there was a post-it note with the words Your mom died in January. I received this September 1999, remember she died January 1 1999. I guess beings he had remarried January 10 1999 he had been to busy living this new proper shining example of the White Male dream. He was a legend in his own mind but a craven coward in reality. Truly a person with no honor.

My biggest consolation is that I out lived the bully who terrorized my life, and the fact my mother was awaiting him when he arrived in Redemption city. I would had loved to hear that conversation.

I am not bitter but sadden he was such a putts but I also needed to put a public record what he had done to note that My mother was a great women who raised me to be a stand up fair and decent person, and a good mother, She deserves a memorial and to be remembered.

Thanks for listening I return the soap box so another may use it