I was talking to a friend the other day, and she told me I would need to lose a lot of weight before they would give me surgery - something in the order of more than a third of my body weight, which is probably beyond anything I can achieve.
If that's true, it would mean I will have to be able to endure without it, and honestly, I dont know if I'm strong enough ....
But I'll find the strength.
I'll have to.
But you'll pardon me if I hope I get the surgery instead.
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SRS
Dorothy, I am not a good one to be commenting on your hopeful surgery, but even if you have heard it all before, I still feel the need to get my two cents in. Some of it cannot be emphasized enough, and ultimately what ever you decide is YOUR DECISION, based on YOUR feelings and YOUR knowledge of your body, soul, mind, and gender. IT (your body, and the decision) IS YOURS, AND WILL BE, FOREVER. If you go ahead with the surgery at some time of point in the future, the result is not reversible so please be sure that the surgery is what you need, not what you want. There is a big difference, and I am sure you have friends who have undergone SRS, on to find out after the fact, it was not what they expected, or wanted, at all. I encourage you continue talks with them, both pro and con about this.
Nonetheless, whatever your ultimate decision is, I pray it will be ultimately be the best one for YOU. I support you either way.
"Just a crossdressing, hetersexual male"
Stormy
Don't let someone else talk you out of your dreams. How can we have dreams come true, if we have no dreams?
Katrina Gayle "Stormy" Storm
A smart little saying from AA
"Let go, Let God."
I know he listens and answers prayers, when we really need help onto our knees we shold go and pray. Pray not get not I've always been told.
Jill Micayla
Be kinder than necessary,Because everyone you meet
Is fighting some kind of battle.
The numbers I've seen...
MOST of the SRS surgeons do impose weight limits on doing the work. I've been told there are several reasons, including the fact that it's a lower risk operation if we weigh less. But, the most common reason I've been told is so that the work they do has something that they can "stick" it to so it doesn't wander around inside. Apparently our "fat" is not good for this, so they want us to get rid of "some"...
The most common numbers I've seen are under 195 lbs if you're 5'8" or less, and under 205 lbs if you're 5'9" or more.
That said, different surgeons have different rules and some even say they make exceptions.
Whether we can lose the weight or not is a different question. For those not over weight, it's easy to say "you just have to want it enough". But, as another here discovered - and reported in her blog recently - Things can happen that let us do what we NEED to. (It's much harder to take the weight off, than it was to put on!) I've known some people that had to resort to surgery (there are several) to allow them to lose weight. (Gastric bypass; tummy banding, etc.)
For a different reason - I feared they'd not let me have any surgeries (My FFS got cancelled, as I mentioned). But, my doc says assuming we get things into remission I can go forward. I did manage to get below the 205 lbs point - before health and medication issues mucked things up for me, so I have hopes.
Only you can provide your own hope. Nobody here can MAKE you do what's healthy. Remember that! You can get encouragement, you can get support. But, ultimately it is you (just like it's me) that have to do the hard stuff. And, it SUCKs to change one's diet!
Good luck,
Annette
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Just substitute the sweeties for the gym. You can always resume the sweeties after the surgery! = )
I think you should discuss
I think you should discuss this with your doctors, they can give you the TRUTH as opposed to your friend. There are a lot of people out there that "know" facts, that are nowhere near the truth. I was told by someone after being diagnosed as diabetic that it was OK to eat honey because it was a different type of sugar. It isn't.