To be clear, I am Post Op MTF. I am not sure that I am transgendered save to say that my experience with males was dismal and I hated them. I have never had sexual relations with anyone save my wife when I was married.
I am reading a story where a guy is being Sissified, but has a female fiance. Make your head spin? The reason my original marriage ended was I was too feminine for my X. She felt I was gay. I am not.
I present as a woman now and have for 18 years. I don't think Sissies are gay. Perhaps the people that insisted that I transition were simply incredibly stupid?
Gwen
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Sissy
Well, she did a couple of really good movies like Carrie and Coal Miner's Daughter.
Oh, and in the movie A Man with Two Brains.
I've given up on worrying what is exactly a 'sissy'. It is misogynistic and derogatory to women by comparing a man to some form of perceived 'weakness' in femininity.
In a society that increasingly only wants to respect strength, the idea of a person who is balanced and loving and caring but not particularly aggressive seems to be an anathema for some reason but those are the very qualities that help to keep a society together.
Never Labelled a Sissy
In the old days I was just labelled as Gay. Yet, I have always loved a woman's wide butt. I hope that one day there will be a place for Sissies with out all sorts of aspersions being cast on us.
"Sissy" is about gender policing.
As far as I have been able to figure out, there is no definition of the word; it is simply a way of insulting and gender-policing any (male) person who isn't sufficiently "masculine." I have a really hard time thinking of any situation, real or imagined, where it is anything else.
I notice that over at Fictionmania, there are scads of stories with "sissy" in the title, and though I refuse to read them, from what I can see, they are invariably about forced feminization with the intent of humilating a man. Which I hate. The idea that being in any way like a woman should be humiliating offends me. I see that idea as one of society's many ways of forcing male human beings to act like predatory monsters. (I guess my radical feminism is showing ☺☺) FWIW, I've always assumed that those stories were aimed at (male?) people who get off on being humiliated.
By contrast, I have become comfortable with the word "queer." Although people called me that as a way of insulting me, I also noticed that it was and is a term applied to gay men, lesbian women, bisexual people, trans people, cross-dressers -- pretty much anyone who doesn't fit into the cis-het-gender-conforming straitjacket. Since I never liked that straitjacket, I can wear that "insult" with pride.
The term "sissy" is used as
The term "sissy" is used as an insult.
derogatory•informal
noun
noun: sissy; plural noun: sissies; noun: cissy; plural noun: sissies
What disturbs me Gwen is when you say
"the people that insisted that I transition"
Were you forced? Was it a case of you don't fit what we would class as a man, so we better make you a woman?
Did you ever feel the need to live as a woman or would you prefer to live as an effeminate man?
While I personally do not like the word sissy, I have learned that some do. These are usually fully intact males that enjoy feminization as part of being humiliated. I have written a few stories on request from sissies. I won't judge what they enjoy.
I would never in a million years call a trans woman a sissy.
If your transition was "forced" you have my sympathy Gwen.
I am reading a story where a guy is being Sissified, but has a female fiance. - This is usually used as part of a "cuckold" fantasy. The husband not being "man" enough can be replaced by a "real man".
Leeanna
It strikes me as absurd
That the gender which runs the world, male, is actually in a minority, there are more females than males on this planet. I accept that males, generally, are stronger and bigger. But that seems to be a false criterion unless it allows for domination by strength or power which appears to be the way things are run because if you don't go with them they will beat you up or worse.
I have never understood why someone should have approval to beat up someone smaller or less masculine than them, it sounds like the law of the jungle, though in the wild only a few species attack others to show dominance, it takes too much time and energy. I accept that there species which operate in this way and even have female dominance, which means if you are of lowly status you can be attacked or driven out perhaps to perish, this is the way meerkat society operates.
Violence, including name calling, is shown towards people who are different whether that refers to religion, race or gender and society permits violence towards them. I often ask myself why, who gives you the right to call people names let alone beat them up and the answer is no one, they do it because they can. Putin has shown that a bigger, stronger country can attack a smaller one. It isn't justified but no one seems to want to stop him except the people of that country who seem to winning at the moment, so he shells or bombs civilians because he can, he is never likely to be brought to justice, unfortunately.
The people of this planet will never be able transcend this brutality until the bullies and bad mothers are brought to account, it won't happen in my life time but I live in hopes that one day we will be able to live in peace and civility, maybe even civilisation.
Angharad
Self-declared sissies
I think that you are all right - "sissy" is a misogynistic and derogatory to women by comparing a man to some form of perceived 'weakness' in femininity, and it is designed to hurt and offend the person accused of being a sissy.
But then there are those that delight in calling themselves sissies.
Yes, there are a bunch of them over on Fictionmania, and some of them are my biggest fans over there. No, I am transgender and not a sissy. I think these sissies have a fetish, and some are not even gay except they fantasize about some man's girlfriend for sexual gratification. But I am not one to condemn such people. Being transgender is to understand that sexuality, gender and attraction is highly variable.
So in answer to your question, there are men who are accused of being sissies, and sissies who are happy to be them - two different things.
Maryanne
Hi Maryanne. There are 2 or 3
Hi Maryanne. There are 2 or 3 on Fictionmania who asked me to write sissy stories. I do have a couple of stories with sissy in the title. As I said. I would never refer to a trans woman as a sissy.
The sissies I have corresponded with love being feminine as they feel it is humiliating. Trans people see being feminine as something to aspire to. Total opposites.
What does surprise me is how many women love the drag shows on TV now. I wonder what the anti-trans bathroom brigade think about drag.
Leeanna
As a woman,
I find drag to be demeaning, it is a caricature of excessive femininity and thus intended to mock women, I find it embarrassing especially the sort like Mrs Brown's Boys, if that's what people laugh at then I do worry for them. I wouldn't cross the road except to avoid it.
Angharad
The Delusion of Two Genders
Most cultures on Earth see two genders but perhaps there are actually more, perhaps four or even more. They thought I was male but I hated that. Transgender Psychologists try to make you into a female, but anatomically that is impossible. Like "Tomboys" perhaps there can be Tomgirls. That's what I think I am.
BSRI etc.
If you consider the different values that a person can be described with using the BSRI (which uses 40 usually male/female assigned attributes with 7 possible values each), then you would get 7^40 or 6,366,805,760,909,027,985,741,435,139,224,001 = 6x10^33 different possible gender identities. Trying to dumb this down to the binary system of just 2 distinct options seems to be absolutely ludicrous.