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Jesus said, “Whoever is not with Me is against Me.” He also said, “Whoever is not against Us, is for Us.” This was echoed in the sixties as “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.” I bought into this creed then -- and apply it now.
Over the last several months, I have cut ties with several long-term friends.
The first -- I’d known for over twenty-five years and had always enjoyed. We had been catching up over lunch a few weeks ago when she said, “I’m done with the Twins ballclub. When they posted that memorial to George Floyd in their outfield, I lost all interest in them.”
The next person severed our ten-year friendship when she said, “If those blacks simply would learn to do what the police tell them to do, there wouldn’t be any problems.”
Another one is a high school classmate who sent a long email ranting about how Doctor Fauci is in cahoots with the drug companies to make $billions from covid, which has been over-blown by the mainstream media.
One more person is someone I’ve been friends with since 1989. He opined that transgender teens just need parents who know how to say, “No.” That was his answer to the “trans-athlete dilemma.”
These are not bad people who are espousing this tinfoil-hat nonsense. These are rational human beings who are assaulted every day by politicians and media stars who have found the power and riches that can be achieved through hate speech and multi-phobic actions.
Here are some basic facts:
George Floyd was killed. George Floyd was a human being. The killing of a human being is a hateful act that should not be ignored. Any attempt at justifying such a killing is sinful.
Covid is an international pandemic that has killed nearly four million people. Nearly two percent of those that have had the disease have died. It is a deadly killer who should be respected. Senators throwing bricks at an eighty-year-old scientist, who has successfully devoted his life to mitigating epidemics, should be shunned and voted out of office.
In this emotionally charged world, you have chosen to post ultra-conservative viewpoints on a site devoted to authors who are largely trans. Authors, by their very nature, have opinions and a strong urge to voice them. You shouldn’t be surprised when you stick your jaw out and someone responds with a vicious punch.
BarbieLee – there probably are no two people on this site more alike than you and me.
We have extremely similar backgrounds.
The major difference is this.
In the late 1950s, a drought left our family penniless. The county organizer made a visit to our farm to check to see if my father “Was still a strong Democrat.” When my dad assured him that he was -- the “organizer” found my dad a job as a mechanic with the state highway department. That put food in my stomach and probably allowed me to go down the paths I did in my life.
From that day forward, I tended to see things from the liberal point of view. That was set in cement when JFK ran for president since I was Roman Catholic.
During the sixties, I identified with the activist priest and embraced much of the liberal counterculture.
I’m sure, BarbieLee, your adherence to conservatism has similar roots.
Your party has always had my respect. I’m sure I’ve voted for as many R candidates for national office as I have D candidates. I’ve sent as much money to Rs as I have to Ds. One of my best friends was an R governor.
But -- what is currently passing for the R party is far from what I have respected. The party I respected would not stand behind the Big Lie. The party I respected would not stand for Qanon. The party I respected would want to know why those people died defending our Capitol? The party I respected stood behind individual’s rights and would not want to tell trans youths that they don’t have the same rights as every other student.
BarbieLee – you seem to think people don’t respect you. How could they not? Don’t confuse lack of respect with the inability to swallow your far-right soundbites.
I’m sorry your feelings have been hurt.
Jill
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Well Said
I dearly hope this blog entry is allowed to stand. I know how sensitive management here is to divisive subjects, and anything that might conceivably hurt someone's feelings. But, this most definitely needs to be here.
Thank you for writing it. It gracefully expresses my own feelings far better than I could. And if anyone should support equal rights and respect for all, it's every marginalized LGBTQ person. Some of us are marginalized even within marginalized communities. If we can't stand up for principles, then we deserve our marginalization. (AND WE DON'T!)
Raised by Racists.
My family members said hateful things about Blacks, Mexicans, Spicks, and anyone who was not Heterosexual. There were more. It took me into young adulthood to begin to deal with that injustice. Still after many years I have to carefully regulate my own feelings. I did not know about my own Native American background until the last few years. As I do more research, the words of my Mother make more sense. She emphatically told me to never speak of my being Indian. Now I just do my best and hope that will be enough.
Gwen
Alarm Bells
Well said, but one thing did trigger an alarm: "... to check to see if my father `Was still a strong Democrat.' When my dad assured him that he was..." It's wrong to base a public job (such as state highway mechanic) offer on political position.
-- Daphne Xu (a page of contents)
Re:Alarm Bells
Note she didn't say it was 'right' or 'wrong', only that it influenced her thinking at that time and gave her opportunities she might not have had, including basic necessities. That was an early influence but obviously not one that guided her to think that Democrats should have absolute power. She has supported Republicans and obviously repudiates racism that the "Dixiecrats" and now many in the "Party of Trump" espoused. I think the point is that we are heavily influenced by early events liberal or conservative, but we can use our own cognitive powers to determine if those labels are being used appropriately for the welfare of society.
The saying 'not what you know, but who you know' can not be completely ignored; it happens quite often, sometimes by luck, sometimes by politics, sometimes by relationships.
I believe...
...that everyone is entitled to their own opinions, attitudes, and view of life. It's when we stop respecting each other that things go wrong. A lot of what has been said was a problem for many years, but it has become a much greater issue in the past decade.
I'm not asking anyone to agree with me, just give some thought to how things have changed and what we can do to pull things back to a place where we can all be happy.
When Were We All Happy?
I would be happy to stand with you, if I knew where we were going.
Do you want to go back ten years to when same-sex marriage wasn't legal?
Do you want to go back fifteen years to when health care was even harder to purchase than what it is today?
I'm an insurance exec. Do you want to back to when insurance companies could blatantly discriminate when setting insurance premiums or even accepting risk? That's only twenty-five years ago.
Do you want to go back fifty years to when the only woman to run a Fortune 500 company was Katherine Graham? There are only 37 today, but things have improved.
Do you want to go back fifty years, prior to the civil rights act?
When I was a kid we turned on the television and laughed at people who stuttered, gays, uppity women who didn't know their place. . .anyone who was different. Was that being respectful?
I've written many, many stories here about how horrible people treated each other in the fifties and thought nothing of it. Do you want to go back to that?
I admire your aspiration but just can't wrap my arms around your goal.
Jill
Angela Rasch (Jill M I)
"But I didn't hear all this complaining back then..."
Uh... maybe because those who had complaints
about how they were being treated didn't have a voice,
and were portrayed in the media mostly as grotesque caricatures.
(in geezer voice:) "And by cracky, THAT'S what made 'em the Good Ol' Days!"
~hugs, Veronica
What borders on stupidity?
Canada and Mexico.
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Sometimes Being Myself
Sometimes here, I can only be myself in a story. I'm (now) thinking in particular of the disconnect between science and general laymen, the kind that leads to science-bashing as well as crackpot theories and conmen. I hope one realizes that "The Penny Tree" was a parody, with exaggerated absurdities.
Richard Feynman on tachyons: "They don't exist."
Sunday School Teacher: "Well, that's his opinion."
Richard Feynman (when alive, a top physicist, Nobel-Prize winning) told of an encounter with a military officer in "Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman!" The officer was caught up with E = mc2 in his mind. Feynman couldn't disabuse him of the notion that a massive military tank couldn't just pick up sand and convert it to energy, to avoid carrying huge amounts of fuel.
There is a saying, "When you're explaining, you're losing." I wonder if Feynman could have hit the point home with, "Heck, even the sun can't do anything with oxygen and silicon."
-- Daphne Xu (a page of contents)
I am a Republican…….
But I wholeheartedly stand behind the sentiments expressed here by Angela. I joined the party at the age of 18, which was nearly 43 years ago - and I did so based on the fact that the party stood for small government and economic conservatism. Like her, I have voted for representatives of both major parties as well as independents. I have voted for the candidate I felt best for the job, irregardless of party affiliation.
That was then, and this is now - and the party I joined no longer exists. I am ashamed and astonished at what I have seen and heard from people claiming to be members of the party I joined. They no longer stand for that which I believe in, but have become no more than a cult - a group living in a make believe world and grasping at straws trying to preserve a world that never really existed, a world that should never exist.
D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus