Mixed emotions (my Youngest Sister just came out as transgender)

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11 years and 9 days ago anyone would have said that my parents had 5 children 4 boys and 1 girl February 15 2008 I split the family when I came out as transgender.

now my youngest Sister has just come out as transgender too for thouse keeping score that's 2 boys and 3 girls. Now I am excited for my sister, finally telling someone. And now I get to play big sister encouraging and mentoring her. But I'm also upset to know I come from a family whose divided reaction scared my sister into hiding even from me for 11 years after she should have known it would be safe to tell at least me. But now I alone know this truth and it kills me to have too continue using male pronouns in front of the family. I do take advantage when we are alone to drop extra female pronouns to make up for it and I wonder if I smiled that big the first time someone called me Sister hopefully soon she will feel comfortable coming out to the rest of the world hopefully soon I can convince her it is safe to present female behind closed doors, but I still remember being that scared little girl convinced I would be run out of town for walking down the makeup Isle.

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If she has one advantage, it

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If she has one advantage, it is that you have quite a bit of intelligence that she can benefit from. Who's safe, who's not worth touching with a ten foot pole. In particular, you know what she's going to face - both regarding the family, and regarding getting the ball rolling on eventually receiving an official diagnosis (which will probably be helpful in dealing with her school, among others).

Age of Sister

It would be easier to comment if I knew the age of your sister.

Jill

Angela Rasch (Jill M I)

She is 30 I'm 35

She is 30 I'm 35

I am always amazed at the power of words when they come flowing out of the heart; even in small numbers.

Please be careful with the pronouns

If you continually use female pronouns when it's safe to do so, it will be really easy to slip and use one accidently when it is not safe to do so. At least with you leading the way, hopefully her journey will be easier than yours. Best wishes to you both.

LittleOne