Comments and Stars

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You suffer through putting your heart into digital form for everyone to see by posting a story.

A day later you check the comments and kudos.

Whoa -- not everyone loves it. In fact, a couple of people say things that leave you wondering if you have any personal value.

What should you do about it?

A while back I asked for help finding software for writing a script.

I poured myself into what will become a seven-minute film.

Two days ago I met with the director and assistant director. The assistant director played the female card on me. "You wouldn't understand why your script is so offensive because you're not a woman." I wanted to cry on so many levels. I rarely present as a woman outside of my home and hadn't to either of these two but I truly believe I have a feminine soul.

As I write this I'm waiting for my nails to dry. For the third day in-a-row I'm dressed from the skin out in feminine clothing. Today I selected a dress. My spouse wears a dress much less frequently than I do.

Then she added, "You're going to need to edit the script before I start casting. I wouldn't let my daughter near a play with such sexual abuse undertones."

How she found "sexual abuse" in the script is beyond me. I suppose if you squinted just right and stood on your head you might. . ..

Nonetheless, I did a re-write to her specifications. She's experienced and probably is sensitive to certain issues for whatever reason. It didn't harm the story -- so I didn't care.

I'll admit I first reacted by thinking, "Screw this. This is a volunteer effort for which I'm not getting paid. If she's so fucking brilliant why didn't she write a script!" But somehow I found a bit of maturity and decided to continue with the project.

At the end of our meeting, she said, "I was so worried about this meeting. I don't know you, but understand that this is your script and had prepared myself for a volcanic reaction. It's so hard to criticize face-to-face."

I thought of how easy it is to criticize someone online. People say things they NEVER would say if they knew you or were looking you in the eyes.

When confronted by a negative review, it's hard to remember it isn't about you. First off, the person might just be a troll, who gets off being a jerk. When I get a bad review on Amazon I'll check other reviews by that person. Often, that person is mad at the world.

Then I try to remember that some people think a three-star review is a compliment because they didn't give you a one- or two-star review -- instead of a four- or five-star review that is more the norm.

For the fun of it, I checked out what people thought of A Tale of Two Cities, the Dickens classic. Four percent of those reviewing gave it one star.

Some of the comments:

I've bought this book and looked at it more than once but I've failed to read it.

Blah

Very slow read, classic.

I fall asleep every time I try to read it.

The first page and the last four chapters are the best part of the novel. The rest is very slow and the characters are not fleshed out enough to care about any of them until the end.

I could never appreciate classics fully and I think because the really, REALLY, long sentences that span more than a page on my kindle deter me from approaching them. Get my drift?

I love reading many of the classics. This wasn't one of them. Dickens was paid by the word. It is evident in the tale. It was chosen by my book club to read; yet it felt much more like an assignment. I finally downloaded the audible version and found even then I listened with only half an ear. That's how I got through it.

Horrible. Could not get into it. Now I remember why I didn't like English is Highschool. Good concept, but don't understand how it's good enough to be a classic.

I had to read this in high school. I hated it. I read it again and my thoughts didn't change. This is supposed to be a great work of art. I still don't get it.

Too slow at times. But I think that it is a personal choice with books

This was definitely not my favorite book from Charles Dickens. In fact, I found it one of the most boring books I have read in a long time. It was even worse than reading about people sitting around gossiping like in a Jane Austen novel. People talked. They did stuff. People died. Others lived. The end. I don't care.

It may be considered a classic, but there's some atrocious writing in this book. If I could go back in time, I would try to introduce Charles Dickens to the concept of the period -- you know, so he could end a sentence every so often. Some of his sentences run on for pages, making this book about as easy a read as a dense legal contract. It occasionally borders on incoherence.. I still like the story, though, and the occasional clever turn of a phrase, but I wish someone actually took the time to edit this book when it was first written.

Too Wordy, makes Tolkien look like a short story writer.

How do you review a classic? It's over fifty years since I first read Dicken's tale of the
French Revolution.. To enjoy it you need lots of patience and plenty of time. I have neither. I found the dialogue stilted, long winded, verbose..
Did people really talk to each other like that? The story line is great, characters well fleshed out' Appropriately, it's very, very Victorian, hardly likely to appear on any top selling book list today.

Obviously, these reviews reveal more about the reviewer than they do the story itself. Dickens is a wonderful writer who taught us all much more than we probably realize about the art of putting words on paper.

And then - - - every once in a while my stories posted on Big Closet receive a comment that is so insightful that my heart grows three times and I take the lesson forward for my next effort. Those are the moments we writers live for and why comments mean so much.

You're probably not as good a writer as Dickens. (I know I'm stretching it to even compare myself to him. If he's a ten, I'm a one.) If Dickens can receive the above comments, don't let it bother you when your work gets panned.

Cherish the positive remarks. Learn from the others. Filter everything through "It's not about me!"

Good luck to everyone who writes or comments!

Jill

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