Or so the saying goes. But after yesterday I am not so sure about that.
For those who don’t know my story, I went public with my transition several years ago and have been full time since then - no more hiding it away, or pretending to be someone I am not. And yes, it has been worth it to finally be me, but it hasn’t been all roses either. It cost me a good job (which luckily I was able to replace with a better one where the people appreciate me for me), it cost me some friends and family who couldn’t cope with me as I am now, and it caused some real anguish for those of my family who are still with me -especially my spouse and my three sons.
My middle son is a police officer, and a very good one. I am very proud of him, as I am of all of my sons.
Due to problems that the PBA has been having with the city administration, they filed a complaint and are threatening a law suit. Part of this complaint revolved around my transition, what has been said about me and my son around city hall, and the bigoted attitude expressed by some city officers. The complaint was delivered on Monday, 1/22/18. Apparently it was leaked to the press and made the paper yesterday, and the local news last night. Here’s the link for the paper:
http://www.timesunion.com/news/article/Mechanicville-cops-fi...
So, the question is this - is all publicity really good? Between this article and the 11:00PM news, not to mention the websites of two newspapers and three local TV channels, this has been distribute to over 1 million people. So much for flying under the radar........
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Your son respected by his fellow officers
It seems to me that your son is respected by his fellow officers. He is an officer in the BPA. While he is mentioned in the complaint, it seems that the BPA has a lot to complain about and takes his harassment a seriously as the rest of the complaints. With all that they have to complain about they could have thrown that issue under the bus and gone on without call it out.
Should the complaint prevail then I'd say that you are getting good publicity, if not for yourself, for our community. It's a shame that the mayor is such an ass and I look forward to the day that people like him get no respect and the general public will vote his kind out of office because of it.
Thank you for bearing your cross publicly for the rest of us. Pass my thanks to your son for sticking by you and participating in holding this jerk accountable for his actions.
Hugs
Patricia
Happiness is being all dressed up and HAVING some place to go.
Semper in femineo gerunt
Ich bin eine Mann
I promise that life is a Hell
I think that compared to some of us, you have it pretty good, be thankful
That is true.......
I have much to be thankful for when compared to others - that is not at question.
The issue here is the violation of my rights, not only by certain members of the community, but also by the fifth estate. But the one who truly has earned my wrath is the slime who leaked this to the press. The person who had such little respect for my family, and such little care for those they hurt.
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D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
They'll hurt you if they can
One of the things I figured out is that the homophobic redneck folk who don't have a life like to hurt anything they can. Lots of us lost every single thing that we valued, and those same people still hurt you if they can.
Wish it wasn't that way, and if you go to court, expect to be discriminated against. 14 years for me. Lots of others have been at it longer.
Sorry.
This
Typical bully boy behavior. How do you think these typically Dixiecrat or Repulican politicians in red states pander to the base who shares their views? They elected such ‘upstanding’ citizens to their offices so I doubt this mayor will see any impact from this, politically. We hate to think there are literally millions of people who despise us for being who we are but here it is, 2018, still being used as whipping-girls by the conservative reich.
As info he’s a Democrat.......
And I’m a Republican. So your rant is a bad case of stereotyping.
I am a fiscal conservative, but socially and morally liberal. I am not a Trump supporter, but neither did I support Hillary or Bill Clinton. I have never vote the party line; I have a brain of my own and I DECIDE who I feel the best candidate to be, or what policies are best.
Dennis (and yes, I have known him personally for years) is a staunch Democrat. He is not a redneck, but he is a product of his generation. He doesn’t understand anything that isn’t black and white, binary gender, and he is too stubborn to try to learn or understand. He has actually been very good to me in person, so this came as a shock to me.
There are plenty of people who meet your description - but stereotypes cut both ways. We shouldn’t lump people into them anymore than we want to be treated that way. I like to think that I was raised better than that.
But more importantly, I like to think that I am intelligent enough to be beyond the stereotyping. I am the product of an old southern family - Southern Gentry actually. I am also a WASP. As such, I heard every racial slur in the book growing up - and not directed at me if you catch my drift. I also like to think that my intelligence and empathy kept me from getting sucked down that slippery slope.
As a group routinely subjected to bigotry and hatred, shouldn’t we be better than them?
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D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
I did include Dixie crats
And not just Republicans. I have no problems with moderate Republicans ala Rockefeller, Ford, and that Iowa Senator who lead the Senate, Robert Dole.
I stand by what I say about the social conservative reich be it Dixie crats or not.
What an absolute asshole!
I hope they keep this complaint going and that this idiot mayor gets his ass nailed to the proverbial wall.
Just the interference in a murder investigation bit could get him ten years in prison, if not quite a bit more time.
Using D as an insinuation that D's son is 'no good' because of D's transgender status is slander/libel at a bare minimum.
no offense
But this is one of those 'only in america' situations. A mayor who's wife is the county clerk complaining about less court time and nothing for clerks to do? I mean really!
If you step back from this and think outside the box it's almost comical about the whole situation, not the trans part that is just disgusting, but the rest of it certainly is entertaining.
It is unfortunately.......
Fairly typical small town politics.
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D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus
In the UK...
...if any politician from a mainstream party used that kind of language, he'd be at least disciplined by his party, maybe thrown out.
But then I went to see "Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri" last week. Is that really how small town Americans behave?
Kind of depends on geography.........
Racial mix, and history, but yeah - in a lot of small towns that is pretty much how they act.
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D. Eden
Dum Vivimus, Vivamus