Although the interview as you have decsribed it was a horible things to edxperience, so is missing out on getting a dream job. Six figure au pair positions are quite rare.

The picture you posted indicates a feminine, positive looking person. I see nothing that would indicate a "tranny-freak".

It seems to me you had a hand in the final outcome. If your legal name is a problem, it can't cost a great deal to change it. If not hiring you because of your gender status is discrimination, you certainly wouldn't be compelled to disclose it. The only law I'm aware of that comes close to this is don't ask/don't tell, which would appear to be the mood of our nation.

By telling him of your status you made it an issue. That might be good activist action, but not really the kind of thingt I want to hear when I interview people. Edeyn, I've hired and fired hundreds of people in my life. Selecting who you want on your payroll is an art as much as science. It is tough duty and when someone makes it even more arduous, that person will not be hired.

There is such a thing as candor, which is admirable, but there is also discretion, which in this case is preferred.

Angela Rasch (Jill M I)