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I will resume regularly scheduled parts of stories. Sorry about the delays. LIfe is kicking my tail. Again.
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You're Great, Edeyn!
Dear Edeyn, I've just read the appalling story of your job interview and all 37 comments. The interviewer sounds as though he probably harbors more than one uptight and disagreeable prejudice, so the silver lining may be that you disclosed to him and in return learned that working for the creep would doubtless have become a miserable experience, worse and worse as you got to know him and all his attitudes and traits.
And thank you, Edeyn, for explaining your condition. It's the same as Evelyn Westcott's! And here, all along as I have been writing chapters of Balthasar's Extract, I thought I'd made it up!
Hang in there. I'll be here cheering if you sue the bastard. I'll bet Mr. Uptite would settle out of court rather than face a trial. Hugs, Daphne
Daphne
Edeyn - What Rights Does an Employer Have
Although the interview as you have decsribed it was a horible things to edxperience, so is missing out on getting a dream job. Six figure au pair positions are quite rare.
The picture you posted indicates a feminine, positive looking person. I see nothing that would indicate a "tranny-freak".
It seems to me you had a hand in the final outcome. If your legal name is a problem, it can't cost a great deal to change it. If not hiring you because of your gender status is discrimination, you certainly wouldn't be compelled to disclose it. The only law I'm aware of that comes close to this is don't ask/don't tell, which would appear to be the mood of our nation.
By telling him of your status you made it an issue. That might be good activist action, but not really the kind of thingt I want to hear when I interview people. Edeyn, I've hired and fired hundreds of people in my life. Selecting who you want on your payroll is an art as much as science. It is tough duty and when someone makes it even more arduous, that person will not be hired.
There is such a thing as candor, which is admirable, but there is also discretion, which in this case is preferred.
Angela Rasch (Jill M I)
Angela Rasch (Jill M I)
Name Change can be expensive
I paid the following for my name change.
$90 for a classified ad in the provincial legal paper
$134 for the name change
$134 for a new birth certificate (still 'M')
$70 to change my drivers license
$10 to replace my SIN card (canadian equivalent to SSN)
about $40 for all my other IDs
Total cost: $478.00
Oh and I got a lovely note from someone who works for the post office... a snide little comment. "Nice fucking name... good luck getting laid." I was so freaked I didn't go outside for 2 weeks.
Dayna.
Cute Little Note
You might want to take that one up with the authorities, it is neither cute nor funny, and certainly not in their job description. I know it will not do any good but maybe some supervisor will rattle some cages.
For awhile with the new homeland security here they were opening mail and packages, even UPS was opening stuff in transit. A witch friend of mine had ordered a new Athame (black handled knife)and there was a note inside on postal stationary "Oh how witchy". Unfortunatly with the climate here at the time I think even the Postmaster General would have said "So? Tough Shit". Fortunately things have calmed down.
Never was able
I didn't avoid changing my legal name to be activist. I hate my legal name. The times I met with the criteria to change it over the years, I didn't have the means and the times I had the means I didn't meet the criteria.
My social security and identification are in my legal name. To hire me, he HAD to ask for my identification. Which meant I had to let him know.
Not that I really have to explain myself to you.
I've had just a bad couple of weeks. Not the worst in my life, but just... bad. My vacation ended up not being either as restful or as entertaining as I'd hoped, followed with that interview. I didn't get the job. This wasn't because I was indiscreet, this wasn't because I wasn't qualified... and really, it wasn't because I was transgender. It was because SINCE I was transgender, I was expected to be the prospective employer's idea of "pretty" or at least not as butt-ugly as I am.
Could you please just leave this issue? Please? I'm almost to the point of just... snapping.