Forced transformation by either magic or drug/virus

I know that almost all of the authors here want to be the woman inside them and write much from that view point, but my question is if a young Man who never wanted or had any desired to be a woman was transformed totally against his will or without any chance to say no at all how would he maintain the rationale that almost all the authors here have their protagonist maintain. An example of this is the sequel that Tigger did "Change of Direction". I have read this story many times and find I have a true LOVE/HATE relationship with this story. The initial confrontation and subsequent confrontations always having the main character getting angry but their rationale or their love for the person who makes them undergo this transformation to always calm down. It is these confrontations where I have issues with the stories. As much as I am complaining about this, this is how much I truly believe that Tigger has written a great story. I am not just saying Tigger has done this. It just happens he is one of my favorite authors and this particular story is one of my favorites. Again is there a particular reason why no one wants to write just how these confrontations would go awry and how bad certain confrontations would truly go. When a LOVE one truly deceives, lies outright or lie thru playing word games or thru leaving out information needed to comprehend the true nature of the wrong the victim feels against themselves. The pain of a love one doing this would be almost unbearable as it would ruin TRUST and where there is no trust there can't be real loves. Please respond.

Thanks

SDom111