I was debating whether or not to post this, but after a day it is still bothering me to the point of tears.
One of the wonderful things, and there are so, so, so, many, about dating Felix is that I've returned back to church. I know there are some who frown about that, but it is important to me. I love the church that we go to. They accept me as Katie, I dress as Katie, I am called Katie, the pastor is wonderfully supportive of my efforts (he even wrote a 5-star review after reading WAM). Everything is great there, accept for one thing.
In this church is a group of girls. I couldn't tell you their ages, but I would guess around 10. Whenever they see me coming they flee and they whisper and they snicker. Yesterday, I was heading to the powder room when one of the girls was heading down the hall the opposite way. She saw me, turned, and ran back from whence she came. I overheard her whisper "there goes that fat guy". I have never felt so embarrassed ans crushed. I just wanted to leave there as fast as I could, but Felix makes it a habit to stay pretty much til we're the last people there.
I was so upset and on the verge of crying that I couldn't even say what was bothering me when we finally did get into the car. I told Felix what happened and he said he would take care of it, but I still feel as if I'm some sort of freakish monsters. O wanted to air that out..
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Kids don't start out like that
Kids don't know this kind of stuff they learn it from their parents and their peers, ok, knowing this doesn't help you feel any less like crap. It's possible that the ringleader is the only person who has a problem and everyone else is just following on.
With all the rest of the people there being fine with you I reckon Felix is right and it'll be easily taken care of.
hugs
Cat
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You can't choose your relatives but you can choose your family.
If the adults are ok...
Then it's most likely coming from outside influences. MOST kids are extremely susceptible to suggestions put into their ears by peers and the media, far more so than by their own parents. Sometimes, at a certain age, and, for girls, that can often come as early as 10, they start to outright rebel against their parents and there's little the parents can do except wait out the rebellion. Eventually, they usually come back to sanity.
My guess would be that they're getting it from shows like South Park, or whatever is in its place these days if it's not around anymore. I admit, I don't pay much attention to such lousy things.
Abigail Drew.
... Make lemonade...
That is just what girls do. These whispers are designed to be overheard. It is a form of bullying girls do.
So now you can use this piece of real life in your story.
One more time: it's just what kids in general and girls particularly do. You just happened to be different enough to strike their fancy. (Remember neighbour in the first "Home Alone" movie?)
One more thing. I would say that there is extremely high probability that if you would have been dressing in guy mode from the beginning those girls would be whispering something like "there comes that fat woman". Just to be annoying and to provoke you.
If you show weakness or tell them off - things will escalate. Only possible defence: completely ignore them. They will get tired of the game soon.
Most viscious and safe way of attack - become friendly with their parents. Start visiting for tea, look at the old photo albums and embrassing home videos.
If parents are guilty of girls behaviour - you will get direct proof and a reason for corrective action.
Don't worry. Keep looking like you are happy.
And good luck!
Kids can be the cruelist
of gods creatures. they have little to no life experience and only know what they've been shown by peers and adults in their lives. it can be hard to get through to them, but unless they are being deliberating being "made"into little monsters by ignorant parents, then they will learn, make mistakes, and learn more from those.
think of it like this, taking their "judgement" is like asking a 10 year old for legal advice. it WILL be wrong, often petty, sometimes down right mean. i also am overweight and i also get those kind of things from children, but i treat it like it is, small persons without a realistic world view.
Hugz,
Terri
Teresa L.
Bad location for that attitude
Do your best to forgive her trespasses against you, if you can. If the congregation in general feels welcoming to you, you could try to make it a teachable moment and let the adult in charge of the Sunday school or kids' ministry or whatever it is your church does with children know that there are some lambs in the flock that have strayed from the path of righteousness.
What are the attitudes of the
kid's parents? Maybe you and Felix need to tell the pastor about this.
May Your Light Forever Shine