I am trying to finish up the most recent chapter of Through the years, but life has decided to throw a few speed bumps my way. First of all, my mother is in a hospital in California and about to undergo open heart surgery. One of her heart valves is leaking. Problem is she's not in the best of shape. Osteoporosis and several falls has helped her get addicted to pain pills. So My Dad is worried that this may have been my mothers last Thanksgiving. He also has already given me the warning that he doesn't want me to come out there because of how tight money is. I did a check for plane tickets and a flight is several hundred dollar, and I don't have it. I'm still looking for work and the unemployment is running out. So I have my fingers crossed that she makes it.
There have been other problems, but I am trying to focus long enough to write a chapter. So hopefully I can finish one up and send it to be edited.
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*hugs*
Try and think positive. She is going to make it! Send her your love in your thoughts. and hold tight to her in your heart. Call her then and talk with her often. The rest of us here at BigCloset TopShelf will be right with you praying for the best.
*kiss* kneeling beside you.
Praying for Raff01's Mom's successful surgery and recovery!
Sephrena
Thank you
thank you very much
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I hope it works out the best for your mother and you. I just went through almost the same thing. If it helps, train reservations are usually cheaper, even if you get the "Roomette" on the train for a long trip. Dining car and bar is free with that. But it is hard to compare, because how far ahead of time you book affects both the plane and the train prices a lot. I just hate the stress of airports and enjoy the more relaxed way of traveling on the train. For all my trips in the East, a plane trip ends up taking just about as much time anyway. Just a thought and maybe it will help.
Annie
True,
And I love the train, but its still more then I got. It's been almost 8 years since I was in California, but I just can't work it right now. Plus getting a job is really important before I lose my unemployment
My dad was moderately over weight, almost 80 years old...
And after the fact from looking at the aortic valve they replaced was 2 or 3 months from death.
He is well enough that he had two knees replaced at aprox 84 years of age and bought a rental property last year just to *keep busy*.
Currently being treated for a MRSA infection but as an outpatient and doing well.
So age is not everything. Attitude counts for a lot.
Cross your fingers, mom will recover.
BUT I would at least talk on the phone or Skype if you can ...just incase.
Unless you really can afford the costs of a flight and all that.
I don't know your family and there history but sometimes family asks you not to come because they feel it will be too painful. IE they want you to remember them as they were, not the person in the hospital bed.
John in Wauwatosa
P.S. Talk with your dad and make sure they have taken care of their finances... all those just in case scenarios.
If their accounts are not joint see if it can be changed in the hospital via a notary. Saved my dad all sorts of hardship when mom died by their being prepared.
Waiting for funds to become available via probate is a hardship easily avoided by simply making all the important accounts "joint tenancy with rights of survival" or in simple words "joint accounts".
And make sure your mom and dad have good legal advice as to durable power of attorney for health care. A do not resuscitate order IF that is their wishes. That they both know where all the insurance policies are and when bills are due. Simple things can trip you up an complicate a trying time like this
I hope for the best for you and yours.
John in Wauwatosa
As far as I know Dad has the
As far as I know Dad has the paperwork in order, problem is my brother is out there and not the best of people when it comes to doing things the way they are to be done. But I am hoping for the best
This is NOT primarily to protect YOUR inheritance...
But advice to make sure your mom and dad are *covered* in case the worst happens.
When bad things happen it is best to plan for the worst and be happy when something better happens.
Make sure your dad and mom get professional and unbiased legal help/estate planning.
I hope your mom pulls though.
I miss mine so much and it is over seven years now.
And this New Years Eve is the seventh year since my dear disabled older sister Ann died. A sweeter person you could never meet dispite her being stuck as a pre-toddler mentally and physically all her 50 some years.
Mom, Sis, I miss you.
John in Wauwatosa
John in Wauwatosa
Raff01, please relax.
don't worry about the story. your family and you are more important.
May Your Light Forever Shine