Yeah, your right. If rape fantasies were actually expressed as often as they are fantasized about, then there would be no families I expect. Generally men are more decent or at least inhibited than their fantasies. That being said, being in control and expressing sexual power (often referred to as ravaging in studies of men's sexual fantasys), often including lesbians, ranks only number 9 out of ten of those fantasys. A man being dominated actually ranks higher. What does that say about American men? Is it true they would like to be not in control, not "responsible" for initiating sex? More importantly, what would be the ramifications if the fantasy of being dominated (ranked number 2 or 3 depending on the study) became known to other men who he might work with or otherwise be in competition with? Where these fantasy's are ranked depends on the study, the age of the study, and the age of the responents.

According to a summation of a unrecorded number of studies in Wikipedia, "45.8% of men in a 1980 study reported fantasizing during heterosexual intercourse about "a scene where [they had] the impression of being raped by a woman" (3.2% often and 42.6% sometimes), 44.7% of scenes where a seduced woman "pretends resisting" and 33% of raping a woman.[1] A study of college-age women found over half had engaged in fantasies of rape or coercion which, another study claims, are within the normal range of female sexuality.[2] Where male rape fantasies centre around raping rather than being raped, they may bring sexual arousal either from imagining a scene in which a woman first objects then comes to like and eventually participate in intercourse, or else one in which the woman does not like it and arousal is associated with the idea of hurting the woman.[3]"

So I suppose that where fantasy is concerned, both sexes can enjoy fantasies of rape, and role play where this can be pretended is often ranked number one or two in the lists of favorite fantasies. The sad part is that all this has strong cultural elements where the actual acts are pretty strongly condemned except were certain minorities are concerned (such as lesbian and gays and blacks for example). The studies in the US surveys studied married men in the main and upper middle class and educated, and this would likely make a difference since they are somewhat more socialized and "domesticated". LOL

As far as crossdressers as a group go, there is usually a more sympathetic view toward the GLB & T since they are, more or less, identified as part of that group, and toward women. Some, in fact, seem to be a bit timid around women and not wanting to presume or put pressure on them. However, I am not aware of any studies contrasting CDers sex fantasies with other hetersexual males, though there may be a bit more of preferring being the ravaged rather than being the ravager, at least when dressed according to comments by a few. Sounds like grounds for a neat study, eh? What do you think?

The brevity and lack of detail in men's fantasies as compared to womens sex fantasies is also interesting. Men's fantasies seem to lack detail and are divorced from any emotion, while women can nurture a fantasy all day until the opportunity, or not, to act upon it in one way or the other.

Where hate crimes against women, regardless of their orientation, are concerned, it would seem that all rapes are essentially hate crimes, and may be expressions of sociopathic tendencies at the best.

CaroL