met another ts person at work

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Well, last night, I got a chance to meet another TS person. She just came back to work after returning from the surgery, and she seems like a nice woman. It will be good to have someone to vent with if I need it.

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It is always nice to have a ear to listen to you and a shoulder to cry on . I am so happy for you---HUGS RICHIE2

That sounds like fantastic news.

Yes, you will have somebody to share your issues with and somebody who has also 'walked the walk'.

A word of caution though, (This is the hard-bitten brit speaking.)

You are first and foremost you ... a person in your own right with your own feelings, your own life and your own thoughts.

Hopefully the common ground you share will bring you together in mutual support but always remember you are two separate people and there will be times, once the gender issues are dealt with, when you will disagree. Reconciling yourselves each to the other's differing views and personalities and yet remaining friends will be the true test of your hoped for friendship. Hopefully, in the workplace at least, you will find enough mutual support and common ground to progress the hoped for friendship and at least find mutual happiness in that arena.

In the other arena's we all wish you a happy advancement of your lives but remember, you may not always see 'eye to eye'. Prepare yourself for any disagreements you may have and always look for the common ground or interest to find any reconciliations that might be needed.

Good luck girl, you deserve it.

XZXX

Bev.

Growing old disgracefully.

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Great - but be cautious

RAMI

It's graet that you have a kindered spirit at work.

How did you learn about her (I assume she is a MtF)? Did some one tell you? Is it common knowledge at work as to who or who is not, Tg, gay, has cancer, is fooling around on their spouse? If so, there is a major privacy issue at work. Be careful. If someone told you, or told her, who did the telling? How did they about the both of you? Was that person not divulging a secret? If too much gossip is floating around, that can be dangerous. While its great you met, someone you can relate to and comiserate with, to much gossip can also wind up in the wrong hands. In the hands of someone who at best will preach hell fire and damnation to you to at worst try and injure you physically.

As to your new friend, remember your sitaution and hers are different. You eed to do things that is best for you and at your speed. She can either be gung-ho rah, rah, or she may have second thoughts and doubts about what she did. Her family may be more or less supporting then yours. So let her help you and give you confidence, but also do not let her bring you down, for what-ever reason.

As always good luck.

RAMI

RAMI

They're all over the place

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mind you I suppose my transradar is very good and I can usually spot them in the dark from a mile away. I even remember being stopped by one for directions who didn't seem to read me - it happens.

In the health service and other public sector jobs they tend to turn up quite regularly and in my own profession, at one point it seemed so common I thought there must be an epidemic.

I was sent some pictures of customers in Walmart in the US, several of those were obviously men in dresses, one of whom had toenails protruding for several inches beyond the end of her sandals.

So you never know what or who's going to turn up :)

Angharad

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