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I have been married to a wonderful women for 20.5 years. She and I have always had a very deep connection. Today we finally really talked about divorce.
She has grown so much in the last few yaers, she is ready for her new life now, I will always be there for her when or if she needs it.
We will divorce when our 20 year old son is stabe in his life and our financial selves are seperated.
I must say that looking at my new future it seems frightning yet freeing. I can live as I wish yet who will that be?
I am 6'2" 215lbs 43years old and will NOT pass and have no expierence with "the life style". I guess I just try to live and be happy.
James
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your future is up to you.
if developing towards being female would make you happy, go for it, and dont worry about passing, at least not at first. if there are any local tg groups, join in. I am sorry your marriage is ending, but it sounds like you are going to be able to remain friends, which is good.
"Treat everyone you meet as though they had a sign on them that said "Fragile, under construction"
dorothycolleen
Height not a barrier
I personally know a transwoman who is 6'3"+ without heels. She's a former U of Illinois receiver and was scouted by the pros. She has a long face and as a male was sometimes called "Herman Munster." She now passes very well. Height and even football shoulders and a Fred Gwynne chin are not all that much of a problem. It's attitude, style and some training. Seriously, if Florence can pass, almost anyone can. :)
Good luck.
Hugs,
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
I'm almost on the same boat!
I am 6'3" tall, and around 400 lbs. I "carry it well", apparently I have good genes. I'm muscular and very hairy. I look alot like Santa Claus, except my beard is brown (okay, there is some gray now). To most people, I am somewhat imposing. If I could lose some weight, I'd be very scary. Sounds okay for a middle-aged (51) guy, but to me, it's just wrong. I'm a prisoner inside this massive body.
Add to that my amputation (lower left leg, part of right foot), and it's just depressing sometimes.
That's the bad stuff. I am married to an amazing woman, also built a bit overweight, 5'1" and a redhead, with all the attitude that you would expect. She is gruff and rough on the outside, but so loving when you let her in. She's hyper organized, and hates things out of place. She's definitely the "man" in our family!
I discovered yesterday the wealth of friends I have. I will never be the girl that I know I am, and people who I share my immediate world may think I'm strange, but there is a world of us out there, and I know that they are supportive and loving, and it makes my heart soar.
I have one bit of advice. I have been divorced twice, never by my choice, and it is not as wonderful as it might seem. You've had more than 20 years of love, and it WILL be a shock not to have that intimate support. The other side of the fence can seem green, but I've found it to be frequently dead, depressing and lonely. Be prepared, is all I can say. I don't want you to be hurt!
All my love and best wishes!
Wren