Hi all,
After 24 years and 11 months I am now divorced. Surprisingly for the first time in 50 years I am alone (not an island, but rather by myself) for the first time ever. I am blessed with friends and family (biological and those I have invited or been invited into that special place), and have the luxury of time to continue rebuilding my life.
My ex actually argued with the judge, and he stated, if you do not like what is happening, do not agree to the settlement, I am more than willing to divide everything in accordance to the law, and put the child into state custody until your husband (me) and your child's relationship is verified and give him sole custody. As it is, she keeps him for the lion share of time, at least until we have several joint therapy sessions with me as who I am .... Mind you he sees me every other week as me, well except for my makeup and wig, or skirts .... so I do not see what the issue is, and nor does he. My goodness I have breasts and look more girl/woman than male.
I must say my tastes in clothing continue to evolve, now I am not only into elegant pants and blouses/sweater outfits, but express skirts ... where will it end? I know, Thailand. I cannot wait.
I would have thought my emotions would have been more relief than anything, but there are equal amounts of pain and sorrow interwoven today. I had a great cry, and fell asleep holding a stuffed animal. I woke up and he was wet so I know I continued to cry after I fell asleep.
Thanks for all the support you have given me.
Kendra Carr
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I hope
I hope a virtual hug can help. Take all you need.
Hugs,
Erin
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
= Give everyone the benefit of the doubt because certainty is a fragile thing that can be shattered by one overlooked fact.
Even when we get the resolution we require in these things
...it doesn't take away the sadness and the loss of what was and what could have been. I am so sorry you had to go through this. All my love and prayers.
She was born for all the wrong reasons but grew up for all the right ones.
Possa Dio riccamente vi benedica, tutto il mio amore, Andrea
Love, Andrea Lena
No significant life change can occur
without considerable stress. And, with a large segment of your life now over, it stands to reason that you would feel very mixed emotions.
My recommendation is to allow yourself to experience those honest emotions without worrying about whether they are "appropriate." I spent much of my life questioning how I feel (and that was before I discovered I had a real, honest-to-goodness feminine side!), bringing me nothing but grief and eventual alcoholism.
May you find joy and serenity in your new life.
SuZie
SuZie
*hugs*!
Remember that tears are the mind washing away pain and fear and frustration. Let them come as they will, and carry away the bad things. You don't need to lose the positive parts of your past, but crying lets you wipe away the negative bit by bit. Keep holding on, and eventually the tears will fade, and things will work out somehow. ^__^ Feel free to drop me a line if you want to talk it out to a forgiving ear.
-Liz
-Liz
Successor to the LToC
Formerly known as "momonoimoto"
That's a very nice saying Liz
I will be sure to remember!
LoL
Rita
Age is an issue of mind over matter.
If you don't mind, it doesn't matter!
(Mark Twain)
LoL
Rita
Hello Kendra
Would you like a Hug?
Huggs!!!
You sound beautiful, and I believe you will find someone who will really appreciate how beautiful you really are!
Hang in there girl and believe in yourself ok?
LoL
Rita
Age is an issue of mind over matter.
If you don't mind, it doesn't matter!
(Mark Twain)
LoL
Rita
rebuild
I hope you and you child will manage to rebuild yours lives and find happiness.