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I thought that I had forgotten the family; put them away; given it up as a lost cause, but I just found out, through the Grapevine, that my youngest Daughter has had a baby. I don't know when she had it or the gender. She is full blooded Korean and he is Caucasian, so the child is apt to be quite lovely.
This thing has once again brought the longing for a reconciliation with my family to the front. I wonder if it is but a vain hope? This time, a Christian pastor has offered help, and I am wondering how far I am willing to compromise my own beliefs in order that progress can be made.
We all have families, civil or not, so everyone knows all about old wounds, rivalries, injustices, and such. Good heavens, I carry around a bushel basket of my own, though I have worked very hard to put them to rest. Not to do so is inconsistent with my stated beliefs.
I guess the plan is for this Pastor to write a letter to the ones who are reachable. I don't have addresses for any of them, so the Pastor will need to do a lot of investigation to secure even that.
I'd appreciate your prayers.
Gwendolyn
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Why would it compromise your beliefs...
... to accept help? Just because he's a Christian pastor? So what? I'm an atheist, but if such a person was my best hope for reconciliation with my family, and he was willing to try, I'm not going to stand there and say, no, I refuse to have anything to do with a Believer in the Sky Pixie. He is a person offering to help. His identity is a pastor, apart from possibly motivating him, and being someone the rest of your family might be influenced by, is surely irrelevant to your faith?
Unless he's demanding you convert to christianity as a precondition or something. that would suck... :-)
I am not compromising my beliefs for that.
I'm Muslim but a very moderate, laid back one. This Christian pastor understands me pretty well and is not making demands. However, my family, who I raised are very rigid Christians, and my son may make the kinds of demands you speak of. If you are an athiest, then none of this will make any sense at all to you. Sometimes I wonder about it myself, LOL
I hope it will be more about agreeing not to fight about our beliefs and just agreeing to be humans.
Gwendolyn
It's my hope for you and your family,,,
...is that they'll set their differences aside so that you're able to focus on re-connecting. I know how difficult this will be for you, and I'll be praying for a peaceful reunion, with the most difficult question being "Would you like milk or half-and-half in your coffee?" I believe in you, dear one.
Dio vi benedica tutti
Con grande amore e di affetto
Andrea Lena
Love, Andrea Lena
Just a try
The Salvation Army have an international service to trace missing or missed persons. Have a talk with them and see if they can help you
Ginnie
GinnieG
I just hope
that you can reconnect even if a little bit with your family it'll be a good thing. I think you're a sweet and a very nice person and religion aside you'd make a wonderful grandmum.
Bailey Summers
Wishing you have
good luck in reconnecting with your family. But please don't set yourself up for a crash by getting your hopes too high. Let things happen as they will... you still have your own life to live.
Some days you're the pigeon, some days you're the statue
As others have said, Khadijah, I hope things work out.
You and I have spoken a lot, and I know how this situation hurts you, and how your hopes have been dashed a number of times.
Maybe, if they become better Christians, it will work. I sincerely pray it will
Holly
It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.
Holly