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I was reading a story that mentioned some things that girls apparently do instinctively, and it set off a round of "TG PMS" where I found myself wondering - do I do those things? Did I do them as a child? And what if I didnt, what does that make me? I'll be okay, it will pass, but it sucks.
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I don't do the pms thing-
I don't do the pms thing- it's too mainstream.
No, seriously as far as I know older women who don't menstruate anymore don't pms either. Also I know lot's of girls who don't pms, some women do, some don't.
If you pms as a transgendered woman, than that just means you convinced yourself into having one , because (sub?)conciously that would make you feel more "normal". In the end it will be something like being convinced you've got a disease or bug. Ofcourse this is my opinion and it's not based on anything except my own (screwed up) mind. :--)
I do know that even when I had to stop taking my hormones for two weeks because of my rhynoplasty I didn't notice anything different emotionaly. While I've read that lot's of other transgendered people became very emotional or even depressed.
point is: everyone's different, don't fake pms'ing just to fit in. we fight to be our selves, not to be pushed into another tiny box that won't let us be us completely
grtz & hugs,
Sarah xxx
Not quite what she was talking about I think Sarah.
"TG-PMS" is more the feelings that a lot of T-peole get when they get hit with those times when they're questioning themselves as who the were, are and becoming. is this right, how do I stack up and all those lovely things that get obsessed over until it gets to a mood or a funk or feels depressed and/or angry at the whole thing.
It's a common thing that transgendered people struggle with an awful lot and it tends to occur over and over again just like...
It's not faking anything it's just a play on words to have that feeling that's kind of specific a kind of name that fits.
Hugs.
Bailey.
Bailey Summers
You might now; you probably didn't before...
As far as I know, girls don't PMS because they're mentally girls. It has to do with hormones. When TG women start taking hormones they do end up on simulated menstrual cycle. They can't bleed, obviously, but they can get moody. Some girls are affected worse then others. You wouldn't have PMSed as a child because you didn't have female hormones, in a large amount, as a child.
As noted above, you might trick yourself into PMS because you think you should feel its affects. That's how placebos work and why "alternative healing" can appear to work in certain cases. People think something is going to cure pain, or cause a health issue, and the brain makes it happens. The mind is an incredible thing sometimes.
Of course, I could be wrong. I'm not a biologist and I haven't researched any of this. Mostly it's from hearing the experiences of transgender women and a basic knowledge of how hormones work. If you ask your GP I'm sure they can tell you anything you need to know.
Okay I can see where you're coming from Dorothy but...
if it feels better...? I know lots of GG's that have the lack of those feelings and instincts too and with every thing that goes on with them I know that they ask the same things or even close to the same things like "What's wrong with me." Honestly it's to me, part of the human experience, like why we aren't like our dad's or mom's or the successful older sibling or even a co-worker.
If you never had those things when you were younger, it's not crucial. We evolve as people knowing who you really are now is just as valid as those that have always known.
*Great Big Angel Hugs*
Bailey...A Proud Supporter of Team Dorothy.
Bailey Summers
It's okay!
Just remember, there are an infinite number of levels of the feminine/masculine equation. Idiots try to make it a simple 1(male) + 1(female) = REPRODUCTION equation. Stupid.
Wren (I'm in the 76.002 percent) Phoenix
I have only experienced
I have only experienced anything like it one time. Due to an insurance screw up, my refill for my hormones was denied. It took most of three weeks to straignten out. I had a visitor from Alaska, who borrowed one of my cars (I had two then) to go see some family. When she walked into the door, I was sitting in a chair in the living room crying and sobbing. She knew about the insurance problem, but she asked what was wrong. I wailed out "I don't know!!!" and she laughed her ass off, and told me that now I knew what it felt like. I had the tears just about under control and the pharmacy called saying the refill was ready, so SHE drove rather than let me risk being behind the wheel. A few hours later, I decided it was funny. But not until then!!
I had no problems when off the hrt for my GRS, but the amount of estrogen had been reduced to 2mg/day by then already.
As for the so called automatic girly ways, I did have some but had my mask so firmly under control that little of it leaked out and it was ignored if it was apparent. There were some slips when I was in my late teens, but not after that. At least I think so. I am reminded that when I came out to my co workers, the women all went, "Oh, that explains that" but never would elaborate. !!! I would kinda like to know.
CaroL