Well, I am trying to keep my anxiety levels down, as I have not yet heard a reply from my brother. It may be because he just isnt the compulsive email checker i am, or it may be because he and his wife are away for the weekend, or it may be because the email account I sent it to is an old one of his wife's and not something they worry about any more. It is also possible he did get it, and is thinking about how to reply. But I have determined for myself, that should I not hear anything by next weekend, I will print out a hard copy of the letter, and put it in his mailbox. Assuming, that is, that my own fear doesnt keep me from doing so. Once I know which way he is going to jump, I will have to figure a way of dealing with my ex. That's going to be harder because she isnt a reader, so a letter isnt the best way to reach her. Ah, well, one crisis at a time, I suppose.