Last night, my son, Max admitted to knowing that the "white boxes in my closet were fake breasts."

Back in March, I knew he had found the boxes -

My almost 15 yo son found my breast forms - or did he?

Last night in the car, as a result of a different discussion, not relevant, he made that acknowledgement, and admitted he wanted to know "Why on earth do we have them," so later on that evening after consulting with my wife, we decided it was time for a family discussion. Max had indicated he wasn't comfortable discussing it with my wife, so we started out with just he and I.

I asked him why he thought we had them, and he said he really did not know. I asked him a few more questions, and it was clear he thought they were some kind of sex toy that my wife and I used.

I told them that was not the case, and that they were mine. After walking around it for a few moments and acknowledging that this was hard for me to discuss with him, I told him that I was Transgendered. since we have discussed Transgender before, just not about me personally, he knew what that meant. I assured him immediately that I was not going to be having any surgeries, and that I am proud and happy being his father and his mother's husband.

Once we got past the, this is not a sex toy, Max was ok with talking further with my wife involved, so we went and joined her.

To make a long story shorter, we talked quite a bit, we laughed a lot, shed a few tears, held each other's hands. We finished with a big family hug, after holding both of their hands and I said to Max, "Max I made this vow to your mother, I will make it to you today, 'When you need me to be your father, or Mom needs me to be her husband, that will always come first. Kristy is important and a part of me, but my family comes first.'" All of us teared up over that, and then I said, "of course, in return I ask that you let Kristy have her time when she can."

It was a good talk, Max accepted things well, he was in his own words a bit "wierded out" by the thought, and does not want to see Kristy at least not yet, but he is ok. In his words, "I learned something new tonight about who my father is, and that's ok."

I love my son, and I'm proud of him, this was not an easy conversation, by any means, but he has been raised to accept people, and that has paid off dividends tonight.

He may have more questions, and it would help if we could provide him with a place to get accurate information. Does anyone know of a site that has good information directed at the children of transgendered parents? If you do, please let me know.

Hugs,

Kristy