well this christmas i get to spend it sleeping on the floor at my sister with all my stuff in storage. also i have to spend my birthday on christmas eve all dressed as a guy since i have to share the basement with my siblings and it will be my golden birthday this year as i will be 24 on the 24th. so yeah no dressing as my self instead i have to wear all guy clothes and i hate that. so yeah im kinda homeless till january so i have to crash at my sisters house till some time mid january. so i wont be able to get on so i would like to wish every one a happy holidays and a happy new year now.
well huggs all
with love from sara
till later all byebye
ps hope your all lives are going better this time of year.
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Look at the bright side!
You're not alone on the holidays, you are with your family!
Mr. Ram
It is too bad
that your family can't find it their alleged Christian hearts to accept you as you. I also disagree with Mr. Ram that even though you are with your family this Chistmas, it is the same as being alone, since they can't accept the real you. I have found through my expeiences though, that the more I demand to be treated and accepted as the real me, the more I am. But, I guess if you have to stay there until mid January, I guess you just ... have to ... submit to their rules and live the life they tell you to live.
When is everyone in the TG community going to stand up for themselves, like the very few of us do? My name on this site is not a name I use only when I am dressed as a female, but it is my legal name, and I have always dressed as the female that I am. I refuse to let anyone dictate to me how I should dress, how I should live, and who I should be.
When we stop living everybody else's life, and demand to be treated as the women we are, we gain the confidence to go through life as that woman, and that also lets us live a very happy life. I am not saying that being a woman is all roses without the thorns, but we have to be confident in ourselves. We cannot go through the rest of our lives living someone else's idea of what life should be for everyone. We are not everyone, we are individuals who have dreams, goals, and a zest for the life we ourselves feel we should live, withouot any interference from anyone else, including other TGs. Confidence is the key to a full and happy life. Merry Christmas.
Be Strong, because it is in our strength that we can heal.
Love & hugs,
Barbara
Be strong, because it is in our strength that we can heal.
Love & Hugs,
Barbara
"With confidence and forbearance, we will have the strength to move forward."
Love & hugs,
Barbara
"If I have to be this girl in me, Then I have the right to be."
Tragic Christmas
I used to be one of those people who went nuts with the lights and the Joy at Christmas.
Dec 22 2004...I was thrown out by my family. They had discovered all that was hidden.
Dec 23,2005...My son visited my X with his children. I got chewed out by my son at a resturant, and was not allowed to see the children.
Dec 21, 2006... I was told I could not attend Masjid prayer. They did not think I was a woman.
Dec 2007, My son visited again. Acted very stuffy, feels that I am going to hell. I cried for days afterward.
Dec 2008, Just finished a conversation with my son. I have blocked his email and will not be answering calls from him. I have a written order for the Psych ward at the hospital if things get too hard. I'll be selling my Pistol.
If you are not "out" to your sis, I would not advise it. Still, some of us seem to be like the moth circling the flame. I do not know why we do it. I doubt that more than 10% of us have positive outcomes to the family.
Had I to do it over,(lie like hell) I'd have had the divorce, but then invented this lie that I was involved in Community Theater. That would cover missed make up and forgotten "frillys" left out at my home.(lie like hell) I could have invented a "girlfriend".
Yes, lie like hell; outrageously even. That way, you still have your family in spite of the fact that they think you a little weird.
I could have still gone to Thailand and done SRS.(lie like hell) I could have still grown breasts and attributed it to the drugs I have to take for prostrate cancer. There are actually men who have had prostrate cancer who take estrogen and they are not TG.(lie like hell)
"Merry" Christmas Muahhhhaaaaaa!!!!!!!!
Gwen
Gambatte yo!
That Japanese phrase is often translated vaguely as meaning "Fight!" What it really means is more along the line of "Don't give up, do your best, endure!"
You're not in a comfortable place now, but you're safe. That's easy to dismiss, but it shouldn't be. I'm only now beginning to deal with my issues, but having watched friends over the year deal with bringing news to their families that wasn't welcome, I advise caution. Reading all of the comments in response to your posting, all I can say is find your own way, in your own time. Come out when, where, and with whom you feel comfortable; you don't have to apologize to anyone, or let them pressure you into feeling like you should - but do it when you're ready and when you feel you have a full grasp of your situation.
In the last few years I've found the holiday season difficult to celebrate for a number of reasons, but I've come to realize the season is at its heart about celebrating and appreciating what you have, not what you don't.
That is not always easy.
I wish you and yours all the best this holiday season. My second holiday wish for you is that you will find within the strength you need to, as Thoreau put it, "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined!"
May all the love you give come back to you ten-fold,
YW
Happiness and success are neither necessarily contemporaneous nor connected.
~ Gordon Sumner, quote from a radio interview I heard around 1990
He conquers who endures. ~ Persius