I can relate to that. Several years ago, I began weeding out male clothing from my wardrobe in favor of women's clothing that could be mistaken for men's. There's really not that much difference in the appearance, to the casual observer, between men's and women's jeans and slacks. If you stick to loafers, the same goes for shoes. Trouser socks will easily pass for men's dress socks. I have three women's oxford shirts in solid colors (specifically Big Shirts from Woman Within) I wear them with women's slacks that I bought from Sears or J. C. Penney. All with appropriate lingerie underneath.

With the jeans, I wear women's Polo shirts, again from Woman Within. The fact the button placket has the buttons on the distaff side goes unnoticed by the aforementioned casual observer.

All this allows me to dress like other women my age and yet appear masculine to that same observer. I wear the dressier clothes to church, and the more casual the rest of the time, even on my part time job driving school bus. I've also let my hair grow out. For church, I wear it in a high ponytail, the rest of the time I pull it back to the crown of my head and gather it with a plain 2" barrette. (Mind you, I live in liberal Oregon so that may make it easier for folks to ignore what I'm doing.)

When I go shopping I most often substitute a very feminine top and more feminine shoes. Since I've grown my hair long, a little mascara and a touch of lipstick and the barrette more feminine. With that, I'm dressed as feminine as the the next woman in line at the register.