I don't fault her one bit for desiring her privacy and her personal life be left out of all the things she has accomplished publicly. But it is a contradiction in the flow of society's norm in of itself in so many ways. She produces "music" for public consumption necessary for paying bills and upkeep. The more publicity, the better the sales. Then she wants Wendy Carlos to be a non entity which doesn't exist.
Ahhh, a paradigm of biblical proportions which only inflamed those who delve into the darkest secrets of everyone's life. Thus she inflamed the fire to know more about her by being a recluse.
Wendy, it's too late but sometimes the most obvious solution to what we ourselves might consider dirty laundry is best hung out on the clothesline so everyone can see it. They come, they look, they go away, noting of news to report except normal dirty laundry. I honestly believe the majority of trans just want a life considering the numbers and then those who are out and vocal. Lynn Conway only wanted to be left alone but for all she has done and accomplished, she's my idol. Like all those who have stood up and reluctantly proclaimed, "Yes this is me, I'm that woman.:" after being publicly outed, we provide a path for all who are caught up in the boy-girl gender blender. They shouldn't follow us exactly but find their own way using and discarding some of the things we have done.
On a related note, the Amarillo VA sent me an email thanking me for the way I presented myself Friday. It's a lot of little things we do which makes it easier for those who follow, ladies and gentlemen. Do what you must, but if necessary to give a smack down, do it with a light hand.
Hugs Angharad
Barb
Life is a gift, treasure it.